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Am I a loser because I had no plans for this Halloween weekend?
I'm a 17 year old girl, and nobody invited me to anything, though there were many parties this weekend.
If this makes me a loser, what can I do to get invited to more parties and everything? I have only been to 3-4 parties throughout high school, and I'll be a senior next year! :( I'm not un-fun or ugly or anything.. I don't understand why I don't get invited to anything. Its not like parties don't go on. Now I'm a new girl and school and people have been nice to me at school, but nobody has invited me to hang out. I was the one who invited a girl to a free concert, I was the girl who organized to go to another concert with a group of other people. I feel so alone. Even my old friends, who were already distant when I lived in the same town as them, are more distant. So I'm pretty much alone. I have better friends online than I do IRL. Why is this? I'm usually an upbeat, happy person, and hide my negative feelings very well. I even hide them from myself a lot, unless I'm being real with myself like this. School has sucked since 4th grade, and that says a lot. I don't know whether its because I'm black and live in a town with mostly whites? And because I don't fit the "black" stereotype so blacks don't fully accept me enough to want to hang out outside of school? In my entire life I've only hung out with 3 friends at their houses.. 2 of them combined, less than 5 times, while 1 of them I've been to her house less than 20 times, and we've been close since 1st grade. I think she was the closest I've ever had to a best friend but we still were pretty different people. I dont seem to fit in any group, and I dont want to. I want friends all across the board. But everyone I meet now is just acquaintances and I hate it
Yes this whole question has changed.. ugh. But why am I such fail??? I'm a very good friend and don't backstab or anything like that.. yet backstabbing girls are the ones who always seem to have the most friends. I don't understand it all
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Not being invited to parties doesn't mean there's anything bad about you. Just because people like you in the sense that they think you're a nice person doesn't mean that they will find you compatible as a close friend.
I didn't have many friends when I was in high school either. I'm now in my 4th year at university, and I have many more friends. Sometimes, I would meet people who have common interests with me, hang out with them, and realise that while they are nice people, I just don't connect with them. Similarly, even people who think you are a nice person might not feel they connect with you.
If you want more friends, try looking for specific interest groups in your area. For example, Meetup is a good place to meet people. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) (Be warned that the people on this site are probably significantly older than you though. I'm 21, and I'm usually a token youngster in these groups. This is more an example for illustrating my point.)
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