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Is it worth it?
So , I met this guy online , and we met up and it was alright. Later on, he started talking to me about how he won't do anything to hurt me and sex is just a bonus , he only goes out with girls he knows he can have a future with. So , he told me his only ex , was killed in service and so he told me he had sex with her the first night , and then he is telling me that he wants to have that same feeling with having sex just as fast. He goes on and says how he was suppose to marry , heres an example ,
given how we are talking all the time... and the fact you make me feel the same connection I had with a girl I would have married.... I just know
seee... again...
Is this something I should be worried about , I don't want to end up hurting , but its starting to get on my nerves telling me these things...
what do you think?
PLEASE HELP
THANK YOU ,
BETTY
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Hey Betty, I am also of the same age as you. Well, you've already met up with the guy? did he seem a bit sketchy? could you elaborate how it went? did he try and make you do anything you didn't want to?
because from what you've said he seems to be making this up a bit. Cmon, if he truely liked you he would wait, what's up with this 'same feeling as someone he wanted to marry - which btw, they died' funny how this person is kind of just out of the picture all of a sudden... how do you know she was even in the picture? seems all a bit suspicious to me. But maybe that's just me being over protective over the internet, but you never know these days and you're only 17. I think if you're having any kind of doubts then you should stop it before it gets too messy. There's someone out there for you who will wait as long as you want and there won't be anyone else 'in the picture' so to say, it'll just be you. :-)
Best of luck Betty, I hope I helped somewhat.
Take care!
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Hey there,
It sounds as if you've gotten yourself in a tight spot... He sounds like the type of guy who would just get to know a girl to use her and have sex with her. If he doesn't want to hurt you, then why would he want sex as a bonus and still want to be with his ex? It sounds fishy to me (not good).. If he keeps telling you about all these sexual things he wants to do with you, before you even know him... he is not looking for a real relationship with any girl. A guy who cares will not want to do sexual things with you immediately and put all these thoughts in your head.
A guy who has any respect for women will want to make you feel special, will not make you worried, and will save all the sexual talk until you know you can trust him and are in a real relationship. Real relationship meaning: you know almost everything about one another (so you aren't worried about any unplanned shockers), you care for and respect eachother (not just using one another), and you understand eachothers boundaries/feelings.
I believe this is someone you should stop seeing. If he only talks about sex and wants to lie already, he is not a person you will want to be around. You are young. Save yourself before you get yourself into something undoable... People you meet online almost never are who they say they are. If what he says is already starting to bother you... there must be something already wrong about this situation. Trust your gut feeling <3
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