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17/f and he's 20/m
5 hours ago, we broke up for the first time. I mean, actually break up. I swallowed my pride and went after him asking to give me another chance. He said, he really didn't want to be in a relationship with anyone right now. His reason was because he feels like his personality isn't fit for a relationship. It sucked. He knew I was the type of girl who would not date someone that I dated once. Until I said, "if we were destined to be together, then we'll be together later. Just not now." After I said that, he asked if I actually believed in that. Later on, he said... "I hope I'll come back." He cried outside my window for a while, I couldn't believe it was over. We kissed for the last time, and he said "I really do hope I'll come back. I definitely do not want to fall in love with another girl." He promised me we'll still be friends. He said he still really liked me, he just doesn't know about love, he was wondering what was the definition of love.
I woke up this morning feeling empty. I missed my first class because I just felt so sad. If I left now, I'd still be counted absent. I couldn't help myself, but called him. I told him I missed him, he said he missed me. And that karma already hit him, he said he was miserable and everything. Later on, he told me that hopefully he'll come back, when he grows up. What he means by that is that, he wants to find out what he wants to do and have full confidence in himself.
Then he said, he will come back. After he grows up. Now he's laying down next to me, he came over to be here for me as a "friend". But he's really asleep.
I don't know what exactly is going on in my mind. I have that feeling of full confidence, I know things are going to work out. Or something will him have come back, but yet I'm also doubting myself. I wouldn't know what would happen. I don't want high hopes, and I get hurt again. But yet, I didn't cry as hard as I thought. I felt somewhat relieved but at the same time, I wanted him back.
What is he thinking exactly? Is he really telling the truth? What should I do? (link)
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I think you should possibly listen to your friends advice and give him time. He doesn't seem like a bad guy! I can actually relate to what he's saying.. because I've been in a similar position. He's grown very fond of you and for the so many days/months/years etc you've been together, then you've played a very big role in his life. So ofc, he feels lost.. miserable, upset for hurting you - because he does care about you. Maybe he feels he needs change? a certain kind of change in his life, some people can feel a bit lost after being in a certain routine for a while. Are you his first proper girlfriend prehaps? He does sound very confused and you need to be as understanding as you can. On the other hand, he keeps promising that he'll evetually come back or whatever... but you - in yourself, need to be realistic. You can't keep high hopes, my mum always tells me to expect the unexpected. It always manages to come back around and bite us in the ass hey! when we least expect...
But yeah, I say surround yourself with people that can cheer you up... take up a hobby prehaps? something you've been wanting to do for awhile.. or something you've abandoned, take your mind off things a little. Not completely. Don't worry about anything fading away, feelings and such. If it's true love it won't fade away for either of you :-)
I wish you the best of luck, take care!
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15/f 17/m
So I've been talking to this guy for a bout three months. We've gone a few dates, hang out every weekend, kissed a few times, but haven't gone past making out. I really really like him but I don't know if I want to make this thing official. My last relationship lasted eight months and I got really hurt in the process. I'm scared of starting something new when I know it's going to end eventually and when I do it's gonna hurt. It's like, what's even the point?? Why should I set myself up for more hurt?? I know you have to take chance and its better to have loved and lostthan to have never loved at all, but in all honestly, I genuinely wish I had never started dating my last boyfriend. The pain and the betrayl (its a long stroy) just wasn't worth it... Now I have no doubt in my mind that this new guy isn't totally sweet and caring and would probably never try to hurt me. He's just a good guy and I know that. I know I'm being irrational but I can't help it! I don't know what to do... I'm scared and I don't know how much longer it's going to be until I'm ready... But I REALLy don't want to let him slip away. I know what you'll say, if he really likes me he'll wait, but I don't wanna make him do that. It's not fair to him and I won't string him along just becasue I'm unsure. I just neeed help getting over this fear and avoidance. PLEASE help. (link)
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I think the thing is, you're not really letting go of your past. You got hurt by a foolish boy... but he's one out of a billion people, it doesn't mean they're all gonna hurt you :-) If you know you've got something good, hold onto it, because maybe this one could be the love of your life? or not, but there's only one way to find out... things like these are opportunities waiting to give you an experience that you can learn from. I say go for it! you're still really young, you've got so much of your life to live - live every moment! take every chance :D
Good luck and take care!
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So , I met this guy online , and we met up and it was alright. Later on, he started talking to me about how he won't do anything to hurt me and sex is just a bonus , he only goes out with girls he knows he can have a future with. So , he told me his only ex , was killed in service and so he told me he had sex with her the first night , and then he is telling me that he wants to have that same feeling with having sex just as fast. He goes on and says how he was suppose to marry , heres an example ,
given how we are talking all the time... and the fact you make me feel the same connection I had with a girl I would have married.... I just know
seee... again...
Is this something I should be worried about , I don't want to end up hurting , but its starting to get on my nerves telling me these things...
what do you think?
PLEASE HELP
THANK YOU ,
BETTY (link)
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Hey Betty, I am also of the same age as you. Well, you've already met up with the guy? did he seem a bit sketchy? could you elaborate how it went? did he try and make you do anything you didn't want to?
because from what you've said he seems to be making this up a bit. Cmon, if he truely liked you he would wait, what's up with this 'same feeling as someone he wanted to marry - which btw, they died' funny how this person is kind of just out of the picture all of a sudden... how do you know she was even in the picture? seems all a bit suspicious to me. But maybe that's just me being over protective over the internet, but you never know these days and you're only 17. I think if you're having any kind of doubts then you should stop it before it gets too messy. There's someone out there for you who will wait as long as you want and there won't be anyone else 'in the picture' so to say, it'll just be you. :-)
Best of luck Betty, I hope I helped somewhat.
Take care!
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