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Help! I want to work things out with my friends... but they don't want to!
Okay so alot of my friends are mad at ke cause they thinks I act like "12 different people" they think I change my personality around other people. I've talked to alot of people and they say that's not True at all. my friends were my absolute BEST FRIENDS no joke. A lot of you will say 'if there your true friends they will forgive you' but that's not how it works in this case. Anyways I told them I don't try to act like different people, I can say I'll change and stuff but you don't believe me. They are very confrontational and rude about it to. They find a whole bunch of reasons now to be even more mad. They also say I act like my best friend to much, but I don't think I do. (neither does anyone else!) please don't tell me to find other friends or something because I want to work it out but I don't think they do. What can I say to them? Please help!?!!! And also, who am I supposed to sit with at lunch? I have lots of other friends but the people that are mad at me asked me Monday "why do you act like different people and copy (friends name)??" and I was like "umm I don't know... I didn't think I did it but I don't know" and thy are like well we need to know a reason, there is always a reason for that it is not just "I don't know" so what do I say!??? This is like the pending question but I don't know what to say to them! Pleaseeee help ASAP!! Love you guys that help so much!! (and sorrry it's so long) :))
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It sounds to me like your friends are jealous for some reason. Your friends shouldn't attack you for being yourself. Even if you were acting like someone else (which I'm sure you weren't) it doesn't hurt them any. It's pretty ridiculous that they are all demanding an answer for your actions and being excessively rude about something that doesn't matter.
I understand that it sucks to have your friends mad at you, but you can't fix something that you aren't doing. What you can do is control your actions. First you need to quit feeding the fire. These girls are looking for drama. The more you freak out and tell them you are sorry and try and get them to talk to you the more fulfillment they get out of it, and the more they can talk about it to eachother. It's hard to create drama over someone who isn't being a participant. If they try and confront you about it again then ask for specific examples of what you are doing that is different from your usual behavior. If they can't come up with an answer or it is really vague then ignore it and say until you can come up with legitimate examples and can stop acting rude then I don't want to have this conversation because it's ridiculous, and then let it go. It's hard to stand up to your friends, but you shouldn't let people walk all over you. As far as who to sit with at lunch goes I would go to a different table. Why would you want to sit at a table of people who are mad at you for no reason? I know it's hard but ignore them for a while and do what I said and I am sure things will get better for you. You deserve to have good friends, and if they are your real friends they will get over this and realize they are being stupid, if they don't I promise youbare better off without them.
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Well you can't force yourself on someone who obviously doesn't want you.
I am going to be honest here and I will aplogize in advance of sounding rude.
How could they be your bestfriend if they all been bitching at you and rejecting being your friends? Is that, that normal to you?
I won't say "if there are you true friends, they will forgive you" Because I don't see what you have done wrong besides being yourself.
And I don't get why you are wanting to be friends with people who are rude to you and are constantly bringing you down, that is just stupid.
If you have other friends to sit with at lunch then I think you should do that or just talk to new people at your school.
And do yourself a favour, AND STAND UP FOR YOURSELF, don't let them bring you down and accuse you of things you think your are not.
Trust your believes not theres. And please show them where they stand/
Good Luck =]
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