|
no interest in sex?
18/f
So my boyfriend and I have been dating for like 18 months and we have not had sex. I know thats a good thing and I know hes a good guy obviously but he really has no interest in having sex. I just think it's weird granted I am his first girlfriend and first everything in the relationship department. So he is a virgin and I am not. It's not like I really need to do it but I honeslty liked having sex. My previuos bf was the only guy i did it with and we dated for a year before it happened. Anyways, I have talked to my current boy about it and he just doesn't get why I would want to have sex. It's to the point now we hardly ever "mess around" anymore. Its just weird to me and I feel like thats what people do who love each other and it brings you closer you know? I know we are young too but It's a natural feeling. What do you guys think?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Sexual Health and Reproduction category?
Maybe give some free advice about: General Sex Questions?
It sounds like he's an insecure virgin and not ready for what you want.
I think Rahzie's right. If he's not ready it's not your job to push him. But it's also not your job to wait considering you're both potentially consenting adults.
If you issue any ultimatums he'll probably cave and resent you for it later (destroying or severely damaging the relationship) so you need to decide if you want to wait or if you're done waiting. It's a personal choice either way, figure out for yourself what feels right to you.
]
I think you aren't compatible as a couple.
There is no right or wrong answer to this question. There are only the answers each person is comfortable with. He is comfortable with, and seems to desire, a very different physical relationship than you do.
That doesn’t make either of you wrong. However, it likely makes you wrong for eachother.
]
More Questions: |