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why do i feel guilty?
soo me and my boyfriend have sex all the time. but sometimes i just get this guilt feeling afterwards like im doing something bad. and likee sometimes its not even during sex. like we'll just be doing sexual things and ill make him stop because i start feeling guilty. its nothing like my religion and it has nothing to do with him. i love him with all my heart. but i just dont understand why. any ideas?
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Did he date any of your friends? Have you met his parents? Did you have a bad relationship before you met him? These are a few questions that you can ask yourself and if you feel guilty answering them, then thats the problem. The best thing to do [if this is the reason] is to think about how much you like [or love] him and try to get past whatever is making you feel guilty about having sex with him.
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1. Did you feel ready to start having sex?
2. Do you feel like your parents may disapprove?
3. Are you not using protection?
4. Are you afraid that nice girls don't have sex?
5. Are you ashamed of feeling pleasure?
6. Do you not feel loved by your partner?
7. Are you concerned you're not connecting enough to your boyfriend emotionally?
These are all possibilities. Some may be valid reasons to hold off on having sex (like 1, 3, 6, 7) while others may be issues to rethink so you can banish those unhealthy thoughts (like 4 and 5).
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Maybe it's because you feel like more of your relationship is about sex than you would like to be. If you see each other, and sex is a given, then it can take some of the romance out of the relationship... depending on how the individual feels about it... Maybe it's getting hard to know how much he would want to spend time with you if sex wasn't going to be involved. And maybe part of it is you feeling bad about not being able to control your own desires. I don't know if you plan on having sex with him every time, or if it just sort of happens like that; but if you aren't planning on it, it wouldn't be good if he expects it every time.
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