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This is for the people who answered my “Did I blow it?” question.
So, ironically enough, that guy (ex boyfriend) ended up getting a hold of me after I had apologized and said I wanted a fresh new start. But he’s the one that blew it this time pretty much. The first thing he texts me is “How much gas money do you have?” Am I just being “high maintenance” or am I justified in being offended about that? I mean, after a heartfelt apology he comes back with that??? If he really wanted to see me couldn’t he have found some way to get his own gas money?
So I didn’t see him. Instead, I had met this other guy at an Army recruiting office like three days ago and I went to go hang out with him. We both needed to take our ASVAB and we were scheduled at the same time, so we were in the car talking and he said “How about whoever scores higher has to take the other person out to lunch” and I agreed, I thought that was kinda cute to be honest. And I kept thinking about how weird it was that I was so upset about what’s-his-name and then all of a sudden out of nowhere here comes my prince charming to save the day. Everything was perfect. HE paid for the meal, that’s never happened to me before, I’ve never been on a date. We were at the restaurant for like 3 and a half hours just talking. We had a lot in common and I really enjoyed it. He then invited me out to a sports bar by our side of town to watch the Bears and the Packers play. After that he kissed me goodnight, and we’ve been talking ever since. I thought wow, it’s about time something good happened to me lately. And then last night we had decided to hang out again, but it ended so badly. He sprung on me that he was in love with this girl, who I had met at the sports bar the night prior, and that things between him and I “Shouldn’t happen”. I was devastated. It really hurt. He was mature about it, but it didn’t really cushion the blow as much as you would think it should have.
So now I’m stuck. The ex boyfriend texted me again this morning asking if I was doing anything today. I don’t know what to say. I would like to say yes, but then I don’t. I got all excited to move on, and now I can’t even do that. Should I move on, or try with this guy again? It’s like this ongoing battle between my brain and my heart. I don’t quite know what to make of it.
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So let me get this straight - you got a taste of what a "good" man does for a lady, then he says he can't be with you, so you want to go BACK to the loser?You may need to ask yourself why you feel the only way you can get over a guy is to be with another guy? Why not wait for the right guy to come along? Are you that scared to be without a boyfriend? Look, don't go back to the ex. Gas money? Puh-lease! Sounds like the best decision you've made so far is to not give him gas money. Keep thinking like that.
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okay your in a pickle. Some guys are bold and arrogant where as some are sweet and charming. I fell into the bold and arrogant trap before about a month ago. Some guys need another chance, but then some blow it in the first ten minutes. Him asking for gas money would send up a red flag for me, but i wouldn't call it game over. Do you care for this guy? Do you love him? Think about all the times you have had together and think about all the good and the bad that has happened in your guys' relationship. Does the good out way the bad? Does he say that he is willing to improve his personality and do what he needs to to be a better persons? If he is willing to give it a shot then i would say to just try it. Tell him that he has a month to prove to you that he wants to be a better person and if he blows it, your done for good. That's what my girl did for me and i garuntee if she hadn't have left me in the first place, i still wouldn't be pleasent to be around. If you can, give the man a chance. If you feel that you can't, then try to move on. Don't move on to another guy, but try being single and living a stress free life for a while then if you meet someone go for it. Good luck sweetie, hope it works out for you.
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