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friend obsessed
so i'm a guy and i recently made this new friend who's a girl and we've become really close. We're not together (I'm gay) but I consider her my best friend. The thing is, I think I admire her and look up to her a little too much. I've been happier having her my friend than anyone else in a long time. When she talks to other people, I get jealous. I get sad when we're not together and happy beyond belief when I get a call or text from her. keep in mind, i'm absolutely not the clingy type, i give her space. we hang out a lot because she wants to hang with me too. I think I'm in love with her, but as a friend (i'm not sexually attracted) and I don't think this is a good thing. I get depressed at the thought of hanging out w/ anyone but her and she's all i wanna see. She doesn't feel the same way about me, i'm sure, and I don't blame her. Her life is interesting and edgy and so far mine's been boring, which is prob why i like her so much. I'm also very, very jealous. She's experienced a lot of life and has had tons of boyfriends, all things i only dream of. I just love everything about her and i feel extremely jealous and inferior (not bc she puts me down or anything, it's just the way i feel). I sometimes tend to get infatuated with people. why? what should i do about this whole thing?
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I actually had a very close gay friend who acted the exact same way over me. He would get super jealous if I hung out with anyone other than him or did not include him in everything I did with other people. When I would get boyfriends...he hated ALL of them.
Two years ago I got engaged and I have recently relocated 6 hours away from home with my fiance. Needless to say the friendship that I thought I could always rely on has shriveled away to almost nothing. The last few months I had before I moved, he got a new group of friends and I saw little to nothing of him. While everyone else was giving me their love and blessings for my big move, my friend discouraged me completely and said anything he could think of to make me feel guilty about leaving my friends and family. All because he didn't want me to leave HIM.
I'm not in any sort of way saying that you are anything like my friend. I'm just using this as a point to show you what situations and feelings like this CAN lead to, which is hurt and resentment on both parts.
I would suggest going out and meeting new people and try to expand your social circle a bit. Still maintain the friendship you have with your friend, but work on making new friends as well. That way you have more people to occupy your time and you aren't as dedicated to just one person, which can prevent those feelings of jealousy.
Hope this makes sense...good luck :)
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