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wife's given up being intimate... hardly a kiss or hug, just anger
weve had 10 years of love and 10 years of friction. now its reduced to edginess, short visits about logistics and lack of $.
I am trying to lead my wife back to love but she is resentful, angry and almost wants me out of her way/life. obviously no sex for years (3)
any ideas on how to improve our marriage
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Sound's like everything is going downhill. Find some time where both of you are free, and sit her down. Talk to her seriously. Look her directly in the eyes. Tell her exactly how you feel. Figure out what is bothering her and what she wants. Please her. If she talks, don't interrupt her and listen intently. Communication is key. The solution is bound to come up. And whatever it may be, stick to it!
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Take her out somewhere and make it a surprise. Make her happy.
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try to find things both of you are into and enjoy them.and use what got you two into the marriage.or why you love her and things you like about her.
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Relationship counseling.
You should have gone long before now. Twenty years of history isn't something a three line question and internet wisdom can unwind.
Go to your wife. Tell her that you want to go see a therapist with her to try to fix, improve, deal with, or otherwise address the problems in your marriage. Be positive. Tell her you miss connecting with her and that you want an end to driving each other up the wall.
You can't lead her back. After 10 years no one is a saint. You've both given each other justified reasons for the anger and resentment you each bear. She has to come back of her own volition. Your job is to stretch out your hand.
If she refuses to work on things, you should probably start thinking about filing for divorce before you destroy each other.
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