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I want to go down on my boyfriend but I can't!
My boyfriend wants me to give him a blow job and I really do want to but I feel weird every time I try to do it. It's not that I feel bad about it but I feel like I'm not doing a good enough job. We've talked about it a lot and he's even given me "tips" on how to do it right. I still feel weird. I want to make him happy and I love him a lot. I over think this entire thing a lot and even have had dreams of it. It's something I DO want to do. How can I get over this hang-up or whatever you want to call it? It's horrible because I can work him up to it and then...I just...can't go all the way through with it. It just feels too weird then. :\
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Just don't try to watch porn to get tips on giving a bj, because most guys don't like the way the actresses perform. Your fear may come from the final outcome (that he may cum in your mouth). You need to make sure he understands that he needs to give you a warning before he orgasms so that doesn't happen.
One other thing I wonder, has this guy or any other guy in the past, ever bragged about how great other girls were at giving bj's? That could be a mental block with you and you feel you'll never be good enough then. Either way, just be patient and don't rush it. Maybe some night if you have a few drinks and you feel your inhibitions drop, you may want to give it a try.
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You may WANT to do it, but maybe you're just not ready. Unless you're absolutely comfortable with it, then it's not gonna work. I would wait a while and try it another time in the future when you're more comfortable with him. There's nothing wrong with saying that you're uncomfortable or don't know what you're doing. However, if you're going to go through with it, then I suggest that you work your way up to it. Maybe you can use your hand for a while and when you really feel like you're comfortable doing it, then just go for it. Guys really aren't picky about things like that. As long as you don't bite, I'm sure he'll love it. You don't have to WOW him the first time. I think it's something that you can improve on. Do it once and then ask him what you can try to make it even better for him. But just remember that you don't have to do anything that you don't want to do. Don't feel bad because you don't do it when he wants it. He should be glad that you're even considering doing it at all! lol
Good luck! Be safeeeee.
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Can't really help you with the weirdness, but I can tell you that unless you are like drawing blood, you aren't messing up. Maybe try practicing with something at home to get used to it?
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