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my boyfriend wants a threesome and i don't
My boyfriend is bisexual and I thought it was really cool for awhile because we could talk about boys together and not feel weird. The past couple of time we've had sex he's said stuff that leads me to think he wants to really have sex with another guy. Today I confronted him because, to be honest, I'm tired of this and it's getting weird in the bedroom. He said he has these fantasies and really wants to have a 3 some with another guy and me. Now, I have hard about guys wanting 3somes with another girl but not with another guy. I don't know how to handle this now because it makes me uncomfortable. I don't want to do that. That's weird and NOT sexy. I told him I need time to think about this but I think he thinks I mean like to think about if I'm going to do that or not. I don't want a three some at all. What do I say to him?
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I'd have to agree with solid, that this guy definately leans toward the gay side. He probably needs a girlfriend as a cover and he may even play the boyfriend role with you pretty well but he can't seem to control his need to have sex with another man. You may need to confront him with this soon because he may end up leaving you eventually if you don't give in to his needs. He may be a great guy but if he can't respect your feelings it may be time for you to move on.
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The guy is gay. Plain and simple. There are people who are bisexual to be sure but he's not sounding like it and loving both sexes and having same attraction. Tell him flat out that you will not bow to any kind of pressure about this and find things are getting very uncomfortable and going in a direction you can't handle and want no bloody part of ever.
As much as you like him cut him lose. He's bound to get with guys to live this fantasy out if he hasn't already with or without you partaking. You have to be careful too due to AIDS. You have no idea what he may be doing about this or has in the past with other guys.
Tell him NO and that if he doesn't understand break it off which either way I think you should. Something isn't right or healthy about this relationship and you're coming to realize it. He's into guys mostly and is more or less bringing you into it to justify sexual interactions with other males and those who may be strangers to you.
It's not safe and if you ain't down with it make sure he understands that if he really wants to be with guys sexually and you don't want to be involved with others like this to go and date guys exclusively and leave you alone.
He's not acting like someone who cares about what you feel and think nor someone who is at all interested in women and may or may not have you around to conceal his real preferences for all we know at this juncture.
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Tell him you don't find the idea sexy, that it makes you uncomfortable, and that you don't want to do it. It's really best to be direct about these sorts of things.
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