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I want a baby mother
I am a 26 year old black male and I've been married for almost 2 years. My wife has 3 kids. I love our children but I don't have any biological children and we can't have kids together because she has had an hysterectomy. I take care of my house hole, wife and kids. My wife is a stay home mom. She gets every thing she wants and need. All I want is a biological child. We can't afford a surrogate mother and last night she told me that I can sleep with another woman so I can have a child. What should I do and where can I find a woman just for that reason?
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oh man this is a tuff one. you really got your self into a situation. did you know that she could not have children before you got married? Do you plan on having the baby mamma around? Will you be co-parenting with the baby mamma? No one does something for nothing you would definately have to pay for someone to have your child.
in that case you should save to get a serogate. I know your wife told you to go ahead and have sex with someone but she just said that to try to please you. No woman wants to see her man with someone else TRUST ME. If you find some one to have your baby with your wife will resent you and the baby momma. There is a good chance that she will become jelous too. Especially when she sees the bond that that you and the mother will have.
your asking for trouble if you go down that road. your marriage will suffer. it would be wrong to sleep with someone else nothing good would come from it. your wife might hate the fact that you had sex outside the relationship even though she told you to. Or you might catch feelings for the woman you have sex with cause she gave you something that your wife could not.
You have to ask your self this question. does having a biological child mean that much to you? does it mean more than your marriage. bottom line if you want this so much just save up for the serogate. but you should not have any type of relationship or sex with anyone.
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I have to say that I agree with Witty.
Look, if you want to figure out a way to screw up a good relationship with your wife, just continue along this path. You will find yourself down the road divorced, paying your EX-wife child support, and NOT seeing the children she currently has, and you haven't even given thought to the fact that your wife may well resent the child for this.
There's a lot more to being a man and a father than donating the sperm. You will lose your wife's respect and eventually the respect of the child if all of this goes south, the way I suspect it will. And somewhere in there, you will also lose self respect.
Play the hand you were dealt. You married your wife knowing that she couldn't have more children. THAT was the time to think about your wants and needs, BEFORE you got married. I understand that people change, but you are really being selfish.
I can assure you that your wife has offered this 'gift' to you because she feels guilty about not being able to provide you with a child of your very own. Don't take advantage of that.
If you really want a child of your own, wait until you can afford the surrogate. PERIOD. Anything else is wrong.
Best wishes,
Jada
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Since they killed the erotic services section of Craigslist I really don't know where to send you.
I will say that having a kid with some random woman could easily be handing her 18 years of child support payments or a joint custody arrangement when she attaches and doesn't want to let go.
What the hell is going on in your marriage that you feel the need to knock something up and your wife says you should just knock up someone else? This is not normal rational behavior or thinking.
I'm married. I'm your age. My wife and I are waiting until school ends, and we're both more than capable. It's not easy, but that's what adults do. They wait, when waiting, saving, and planning are better than doing something really fucking stupid so you can feel like a father because hormones say it's time.
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