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Did you ever think you were never going to get over someone but did?
Okay to start things off I am an 18 year old female.
Sorry this is long but i just don't know what to do.
So i cant really explain my emotions through text but here it goes. I dated this guy for 8 months. he took my virginity. we spent everysingle day together, we even spent nights together. i pretty much lived at his house. we became SUPER SUPER close and comfortable with eachother like best friends. we would take showers together. i would go pee while he brushed his teeth. i loved how close we were. i loved this boy with everything. all of my heart. and then the day before yesterday through text he tells me he just doesnt feel that spark anymore and broke up with me.
idk what to do with myself. i still love him so much. i feel so horrible to know i love him with everything and he doesnt want me back.
i had so much planned for us. i was looking forward to spending our first christmas together and halloween. we had actually told each other we were gonna be together forever and talked about in the future getting married and having kids. he told me i was the girl he wanted to marry.
i have never found someone to be as cute in my eyes as he was. i loved everything about his personality.
everyone says i will get over him but i just dont see how. i mean sure i see other cute guys but nobody compares.
im am so terrified i will not get over him and i will be unhappy forever.
i understand im young and you all probably believe that i dont understand what love is but i do i promise you i do.
so i guess what im asking is how can i get over this? has anyone ever thought a break up was the end of the world, but got over it and now is in a happy relationship where they love the guy more?
i feel so horrible and not good enough. i just want to curl up into a ball and rot away.
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You lost your virginity to him.
Of course you're going to feel very attached to him.
That's not to say you'll never get over him.
You can't speed up your recovery.
All you can do is suck it up and get on with your life.
Get outside and get some fresh air. Busy yourself with your friends or with schoolwork, even a sport you like to play or a hobby.
Don't dwell on this boy. That will only make things worse for yourself.
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oh geez, can i relate!
i went out with my boyfriend of 11 months (who also took my virginity), and we were exactly as comfortable as you described. i was at his house every day, slept over all the time, even went on family vacations. i imagined my whole life with him. we picked out our kids' names and decided where we were gonna live. hell, my username on here is our initials put together... i never got around to making another one, obviosuly haha. but we were so comfortable around each other it was almost scary.
we broke up. it was me, though, who broke up with him, so i'm coming from the other end here. believe me, i still cared, so i'm sure he does. i didn't feel the spark with my boyfriend anymore either but if i could, i would go back out with him just because a huge amount of time was put between us and i believe things will be different. but i assure you, you will get over him and he'll get over you. you guys probably won't be able to be friends without it being awkward, but who says that later on you guys can't happen again? who said that spark can't be rekindled? it's very possible, it's happened before.
but as for getting over. i was over him months ago, and so was he. we just had time apart. we tried other people. i broke his heart, i really did, with no intentions. i wanted to help him but i couldnt because we needed to be apart. he would try to win me back several ways. letters, promising he'd change, buying me lots of things for christmas... but maybe all you need is time. maybe you need to talk this out with your guy. but we were crazy about each other, but we've both moved on and we broke up 9 months ago. we havent talked in 6 months and even before that we were almost over each other. it just takes time, which sucks, i know, but it heals everything.
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