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He is so confusing! What do i do??
So i am 18 years old and this guy that i worked with was a 30 year old man that is married and has kids. When he first started working there i was attracted to him immediately. He was the manager. We flirted and stuff and he kinda made it known that he was into me but didnt say so directly. He would tell me everyday how i made his day and he loves seeing me. I had a huge thing for him. So he finally gave me his number one night. I would tell him a lot of stuff cause he was my friend. So things got kind of intense when he told me that he wanted to be with me and that im every mans dream and i just dont relize how amazing i am.So we texted all the time and one day i told him i couldnt talk to him anymore but soon said i didnt mean it and i loved him. He wont respond to any of my texts or calls. I so confused. Did i hurt him? Do you think he sincerly cared about me or does he just not care? Im so hurt cause i believed everything he told me. Did i mess up by telling him to leave me alone?? Please give me advicce. Im literally driving myself crazy trying to anlyze everything. I just really need someone else's view poit.
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Oh wow , well he's married... that can cause problems. Ah yes you did , unless you can unwind everything and give him a good reason of why you wanted to leave him alone or him to leave you alone , but you should tell him everything you just said in this paragraph. Maybe he is not because he is scared , he is married and what do you think his wife would think of that if he found out and stuff , but you cannot look at it fantasy , you have to notice that this guy is committed to some women for the rest of his life. It show's what kind of guy he is , he seems like he would do that to you too , you can get a sense of what type of guy this guy is. I think you should apologize to him , actually mean it , put aside everything that happened and be friends , maybe it was a temporary thing , but one day you guys have to make up , cannot be mad for eternal , it makes things worse. Do not go crazy over it , it is not worth it, it is okay that that happened , but you have to get use to the point that there is many guy's out there and they are good , meaning you can have so many different experiences with them to get to what you want. My advice to you is do not worry about it , just send him a text , e-mail , call , or message , tell him the truth , so he get's a glimpse of it.
Good luck girl : )
- Do not worry sooner or later he will forgive you.
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he probally had feelings for you but more sexual then anything else but i dont know what hes been saying and youve been saying to him so i dont really know so to me it sounds like he was just looking for a good time. and it really sucks that he was leading you on like that because he is married and he has kids and maybe he doesnt want to completely loose that. and he knows that if he continues with you everything he has could go away and become a hectic life for him. i have a feeling that hell talk to you again and he will act like nothing happened. call him ask him whats up? or wait until you see him. or maybe just keep your distance for now. you didnt mess up completely maybe you saying that made him realise that he cant be doint what hes doing. and i'm not sure he really cared about you, you could be just one amazing person but he knows can never have.
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Take a breath... now pretend you're someone else, someone completely different than who you are. Now go back and read your letter. What would you tell that girl? What do you think of that girl? Look, the guy is MARRIED! I can understand that you would fall for him when he's so flirty and saying such wonderful things to you. That's natural. But you shouldn't be surprised that he just disappeared. He's MARRIED. What if it was your husband? Wether you had a good marriage or not, how would you feel to know that he was carrying on with another woman the way he was with you? This guy played you. I'd bet my life you're not the first. I'd bet my house you won't be the last. He's a player. Sounds to me like he got caught or had a close call and just backed off. I'm sorry you had to go through this. Its a tough lesson to learn, but its important to understand that many men will say ANYTHING, and say it sincerely, in order to lure woman into bed. The only way to be sure of a man't feelings for you and to avoid (as much as possible, anyway) bad heartache, is to set boundaries for yourself, and keep them. When you meet a man who respects those boundaries and still wants to be with you, you'll know you've got a good one. A good place to start is to make a rule -no married men. That can never work out well, I don't care what any man tells you. A man who cares so little for his children that he would deliberately cause their mother pain would never be able to be good to you. You deserve a good man who loves you completely and honestly and who belongs to you only. Hold out for that guy and I promise, you will NEVER regret it. In the meantime, chalk this one up to a lesson learned and do your best to move on from this as quickly as possible.
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