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The hard part is over...now how do I remind her?
Ok so I asked my mom if she could get me on birth control pills like a month ago because I'm already having protected sex but I'd rather be safe then sorry. She kind of freaked a little bit but she got over it and said yes. The problem is...now it's a month later and she said she would make the appointment with my doctor when I asked her but she hasn't yet...it seems like she's just forgotten about it completely. I want to remind her but I don't want to just be like "Hey, what about my birth control!?" because it's kind of a touchy subject and I dont want her to think I'm having sex (she doesn't know I already do). So how do I subtly remind her about this?
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Don't be subtle.
Tell her "Mom. Remember when we agreed about getting birth control? I want to make an appointment now."
She hasn't forgotten. Parents don't forget that shit - they have nightmares about it. She is doing the classic thing that human beings do. She is trying to pretend it doesn't exist and hoping it will go away.
Sorry hun, you are going to have to remind her. You could even offer(threaten) to call the doctor yourself. But you are going to have to remind your mother clearly and firmly, so she knows it wasn't just a passing thing, that would go away if she ignores it.
Just remember it's as frightening and uncomfortable for her as it is for you. So have some patience and let her tell you what she needs to tell you, and be honest and open with her.
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Trust me, your mother hasn't forgotten. Her little baby girl just told her she wants to have sex - she's freaked out and she doesn't want to face the reality of it. You'll understand a little bit better when you're a parent yourself. Mom's don't just FORGET about that stuff. If you are really anxious about this, wait for a time when everything is calm and normal in your house, you know, no fights happening or anything. Then quietly, politely, and respectfully mention to your Mom that you understand she's probably really freaked out about the whole birth control thing and you don't want to hurt her, but you are waiting for her help with this. You can tell her if she really feels too uncomfortable you would be willing to go to Planned Parenthood for help. They offer free or low-cost birth control to young women and they are confidential. Good luck.
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