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What can I do to get these kids to stop bothering me in school..plz read?
Today when I was walking down the hallway during lunch I got hit in the back by one of my classmates. He started laughing and his friend was egging him on to hit me again. He's bigger than me so I couldn't have hit him back. he does the same thing to me in my 2nd period. Then when I went to 6th period another boy hit in me in the arm and everyone else just laughed, hes bigger than me too. If I tell somebody that their doing this they will make fun of me and bother me more.
how do i stop wearing my heart on my sleeve? all my life even when i was little i would try and still befriends with some one that has done me wrong, i always wanted to believe that people just make mistakes and not believe that the ones i care about would be this hate full towards me.
how can i toughen up and stop letting people walk all over me? my dad my mom and sister always tell me im to nice and people treat me the way they do because i allow it. and that nice people finish last, but how can i stop being who i am? my grandma always tough me to treat people the way i want to be treated but that doesn't work. I don't want to start any fights with people so I don't argue and the are usually bigger than me. I'm nice to them and they turn around and talk about me and call me zit face. I even cried when a group of girls started yelling at me calling me pimple face and everyone started laughing. It ruined my whole day. I already have self esteem issues bacause of my acne. People at school always beg and take my school supplies and they beg for my food. These girls in almost all of my classes talk about me for no reason, and I haven't done anything wrong. I'm nice to everybody. Every single day there's a kid in all of my classes asking me for paper and pencils. Some people even take things out of my pocket, when they don't ask, and I don't say anything. If I don't give them what they want they will be mean and talk about me, it bothers me because im sensitive and might cry later on. I don't want people to hate me or try to fight me if I say no or tell an adult. Most of the kids in my first 2 classes cheat off of me, I hate my first 2 classes and I think i'm starting to hate school becuz of these stuck up pretty girls. Ive noticed that every girl in the school that's pretty is stuck up and they treat everyone that they think is a geek or ugly badly. This girl sitting next to me got mad at me cause I wouldn't tell her how to do her own paper. i'm tired of people making fun of me and bothering me. If I tell an adult I will just be picked on even more and called a snitch and the people that bother me have tons of friends that will bother me. Ive tried getting my schedule changed but the same people that bother me are always there and its mostly girls. I get along with boys ok, but the girls are really mean, catty and they like to fight all the time. I don't bother anyone in any of my classes and im nice to everyone but Im always getting bothered. People take my things and talk about me while Im sitting right next to them. yesterday 3 girls took my work while I wasn't paying attention and copied it, then when they were done they threw it on the floor when the bell rang. I get cussed out and talked about all day. I know some people will say don't worry about that, worry about your studies. I am passing in school, but these people that pick on me are making me hate coming to school. It makes me cry everyday. I told my mom about it and she doesn't understand how people bother me. I cant go to another school because they are all far away. I get picked on by tough, popular people and every other group in school. I dont know what else to do to get these people to stop bothering me. I dont argue or fight, Im little anyway.
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Unfortunately, the advice that most people give is to stay silent, to not show that it bothers you. At a certain point, though it doesn't work. You say you don't argue or fight, but you have to if you want to get anywhere.
You've got to fight back. Someone punches you in the arm, ask him why he needs to hit someone smaller than him. Bonus points if you're a girl... you can ask him what sort of dirtbag hits a girl for no reason. Someone calls you ugly, tell them that beauty fades, but stupid is forever, so it's too bad for them.
For school supplies, just start carrying only what you need for each class. Then you can't lend it out. Tell them so. When you start eating lunch, take a bite out of everything so they can't ask for it. If they're grabbing at your food, ask them if they're just so poor that they can't afford a 50 cent apple.
Who cares if they get mad at you for not doing their homework for them? If they demand answers or instruction, you can direct them towards the teacher or offer to tutor them for $10 an hour. Your time is valuable. If they get mad, they get mad. Keep a death grip on your schoolwork.
In the end, though, this all constitutes harassment. When I was in high school, my bully got expelled and escorted off the premises by a police officer for just this sort of thing! You need to talk to your principal about this, that way they can keep an eye on it. Let them know if they talk to the students who are picking on you, that things will get worse for you. Remember that the principal was a kid too, at one point, and will probably understand. Most schools have a zero tolerance policy, especially for physical violence.
And so what if these people hate you? If they'll go to this level to make someone miserable, then they're not the sort of people you want to like you. They're jerks, plain and simple. They'll at least respect you a little more if you stand up for yourself.
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No one deserves to be bullied or picked on. Being 'too nice' is not an excuse. The sooner you realise none of this is your fault the better. You DO NOT deserve this behaviour.
Generally, bullies are people who are unhappy with or don't have alot of power over other aspects of their lives. They pick on others as it gives them some control and allows them to assert power. Bulies aren't limited to schools and workplaces either. Unfortunately you'll find them everywhere in life. You know those who are rude to people working in shops, bus drivers and even strangers in the street? They're all bullies too.
Breaking the silence is the most important part in fighting back against bullying. I suggest you sit your parents down and talk to them about this again. It's important that they understand what is going on. They are much more likely to take you seriously if you talk to them sensibly and maturely at a time when they are calm. If this isn't possible then consider writing them a letter. Once they understand just how much this is affecting you, they should be willing to help you.
Keep a diary of every single unpleasant action the bullies take against you, no matter how small or insignificant you think it is. Include dates and times and be as specific as you can. Name them wherever possible. This will help you when you tell a teacher or parent what's been going on. All schools have some form of anti-bullying policy and should take your complaint seriously. There should also be a person in your school to go to with these complaints. If you can't find a designated person, then go to your school counciller or a trusted teacher. You can even go straight to the head teacher/principal if you want. The most important thing is that you tell someone.
If you feel like the school isn't taking you seriously, ask your parents to write a letter directly to the school head teacher/principal. If that goes nowhere then ask them to write to the board of governers or the authority in charge of the school.
Do not be afraid to speak out. The school should respect your confidentiality and deal with the situation as respectfully and tactfully as possible. However, be prepared for these people to turn nasty if they are not properly dealt with the first time around. Continue to ignore them and don't be afraid to go back to the teachers/your parents if they don't stop.
In the mean time, there are a few things you can do to make school easier for you. The first thing to remember is to try really hard not to fight back. The second you fight back, you will be put in the same boat as them in the eyes of teachers and it's not unlikely that the bullies will then get you into trouble. Regardless, it will undoubtedly make the situation worse. As hard as it is, it's imperative that you ignore them. The same goes for any form of retaliation. They are more likely to leave you alone if they don't get a rise out of you.
Try to avoid places where the bullies will be. Obviously this is more difficult in school and in classes especially but at lunch and break times, try to be elsewhere. Look into joining lunchtime clubs at your school or find a quiet room to read or work in.
Don't listen to the catty comments and remarks. Bullying often relates to the bully's own insecurities and picking holes in you makes them feel better. Always remember this when they are unpleasant to you. Don't avoid school or let your work suffer because it'll mean letting the bullies win. You shouldn't have to do badly because of them.
Please, please speak to someone. Even if you can't bring yourself to speak out against these people then at least try talking to a counciller or trusted adult to get some of these problems off your chest and work out some coping mechanisms.
I really do wish you all the best and would be happy to offer you extra help and support with this if you need it.
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