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Is this a normal fetish? Or am I just psycho?
Well, first off, my boyfriend and I have been going out for approximately nine months. We're extremely close, we love each other, we want to get married some day...er, well, that is, later in life. We have strict agreements that nothing's gonna happen until after college.
A few months after we started dating, I took him with me to an anime convention. I asked him if he would dress up as the character Grell Sutcliffe from one of my favorite shows, Kuroshitsuji, who (if you haven't seen it -probably-) is an openly-gay, flaming hunk of sunshine. I called him brave when he agreed to do it, and when we did, we had a great time.
Ever since then, though, this small idea of crossdressing...well, he's started taking it to the next level. He's borrowed my clothes and struts around in them (looking amazing, I might add ;D). A month or so ago, he expressed his desire to dress as Mana from Malice Mizer, which involves a black dress, platform heels, thigh-highs and pigtails. And, just last night, he told me that he would dress up as Frankenfurter for the next con...
Is it weird that I'm oddly in love with this?
I mean, all of my friends keep talking about how weird and slightly gross it is. Some even say he's going to turn gay. But the worst part about it are all these people saying that I forced him into doing these things, like I was MAKING him act this way...Sure, I love it, but does that necessarily mean I'm forcing him to do this?
Either way. I'm loving the confidence that my boyfriend is getting, and all of this is actually bringing us closer together. Through all of this, he still hasn't dumped me for a guy, although everybody expects this to happen sooner or later :P
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I lived with a dude for two years who went through the same thing. We had a party like three weeks after he moved in which was girls as guys and guys as girls. He went to a girl he was close with and got made into a fairly convincing woman (and you really couldn't tell he wasn't from the back) and he started wearing skirts and doing stuff like that on a regular basis.
Straight as an arrow, so far as I know. He never expressed any interest in guys on any level and had a two girlfriends in the time I knew him (the second of whom he's still with last I heard) and it's just something he's into.
If it makes both of you happy, go with it. I'd have a talk with him. Express to him that you like that he's into it, but that you want to make sure that he's doing this for him and not for you, let him know that you're wondering this specifically because people have said the things you've mentioned. Honesty is all you need, you're just trying to be supportive and if you express that he'll probably reassure you and tell you he's just happy you're not judging him.
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There is nothing "psycho" about dressing up. If you both enjoy it, that's great.
You should be able to trust your boyfriend to be honest about what he wants or doesn't want to do. If you can't, that's a serious problem.
Dressing up and sexual orientation are not the same thing. There are plenty of heterosexual men who enjoy cross-dressing but are afraid to admit it because of the fear of being perceived as gay.
Remember, no matter what you do, there will be people who will judge you for it. Well, now you know what your friends think.
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subconciously, he knew it was pleasing you. and he, as a male, most likely wants to please you. he's not gay, he just developed a liking for this kind of stuff because he knows that you praised him for it the first time. maybe he's also just trying to be funny and make you smile.
you, on the other hand, are not weird for loving this. i don't know if he's into anime, like you, but this is him showing that he's interested in something you're interested in, and you love it because you both have this in common. if my boyfriend dressed up as my favourite character off a cartoon, i'd find it funny and really sweet.
no worries, i highly doubt he's gay :)
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