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Lost love forever
I am a 24 year old female. About two and a half years ago my ex and I split. He was the only guy I really love, and it's still a day that goes by that I don't think about him.
And recently I just found out he got married. And I know that his family are totally against the wedding, they don't like his wife.
We haven't talked since we broke up but I still think about him. For some crazy reason, I can't get him out of my mind. I feel like theirs still could be hope. I know this really sound like a fairy tale, but I think it can happen
Am I wrong? Should I just forget about him? Or should I continue to have hope?
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He's married. What you are calling 'hope' is inappropraite and disrespectful to his choice and his marriage.
His families opinion is meaningless. He's made a choice and dedicated himself to it.
It would be completely inappropraite to contact him with ANY hope of a rommantic reconnection.
I'm sorry hun, there is no ethical or moral gray area in this - you need to let it go.
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He's married now. That means he has committed his life to someone else. Its hard to hear but this has to mean that hope for a relationship with him is out of the question. Who cares what kind of person his wife is? Think about it. If he were married to you, how would you feel if he had an ex that was still pining for him after years and years and was still hoping for a relationship? I think you've never been able to move on because you've always held on to that hope. But this is a sign. Its time to pick up and move on. It takes an effort. You'll have to start opening yourself up to relationships with other people. Whenever you start to think about him, think about his wife too. Then put them both out of your mind. Eventually it will get easier. But its time to move past this. There is someone completely fantastic out there for you. You may be missing him by spending so much energy holding out for a guy who can never be yours again.
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You need to move on with your life.
Meet other guys. Make a list of things you liked about this guy, and turn it into a shopping list to help you find guys with the same charastics.
Enter a new world. Volunteer, you willl meet a whole new group of people. Take a class, collge level or pottery or photpgraphy. Throw a big party - every guest is to bring a food item and an unattached person they think other people should get to know.
DOn't make him the center of you life and focus, you'll only get your heart broken.
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