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Do you hide your tears by laughing? Why do people say it is bad?
Alright, I put this in the category mainly because it is dealing with the health of your mental thoughts and feelings. I have been a fan of All Time Low for quite a while now, maybe 3 years. I have known for again, quite a while about Alex's brother. I have seen that Alex does sing Lullabies live sometimes and yes, he gets emotional, if he didn't, I would think something is wrong. But most people comment "I really wish he would show his real emotions. He tries to hide them so much by laughing and joking around. A defense mechanism." I have come to realize, I do this too. My great grandmother had passed 2 years ago and yet I miss her so dearly, I am not one to cry only when things get super messy, my mom says I am like a guy when it comes to feelings. But at her funeral, I could feel my tears coming and I didn't want to cry, I thought I shouldn't, so to hide them, I laughed at things and joked around. I thought it was normal, but by the comments people are leaving about Alex, they're making it sound like it's wrong to do that. To show emotions is the best thing to do. I was just wondering, do you do this too? Or do you let your emotions lay out on the table?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Mental health?
Everyone has different ways of coping with their emotions. Many people use humor as a way of coping, distracting themself from the pain, or hiding their vulnerability. Humor can actually help you move on from the pain. The important thing is to understand how you feel and learn how to grieve so you aren't just pushing your feelings away.
Using humor may not be the most respectful thing to do at a funeral because it may make you seem insensitive.
You don't have to be an open book, but releasing your emotions to one trusted person or into something creative like a journal, music, art work, etc. will help you cope and keep from feeling overwhelemed.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Let me just say that as a guy, I was raised to believe that concealing or repressing my emotions was the way society worked. It is frowned upon greatly for guys to cry or get upset in the environment I live in. They tell you to "be a man" and "real men don't cry".
I'm not saying this is right, but it is more accepted at times. The negative side of this is that you never get the chance to really work through your emotions.
So I'm going to tell you this: It is okay to cry when you feel the tears coming. You may not feel comfortable crying in front of certain people, but take the time to uncap your pain and let it out even if you want to do it alone.
I'm very sorry about your great grandmother. I can relate to you on this. One of my great grandmothers have already died. It's so funny (not funny ha ha, but funny odd, you know?)because the simple act of her gifting me the same type of cookies every Christmas is what I miss the most. My other great grandmother is in a very weak state and it is certain that she will not live for much longer.
If you ever need to talk, by all means, hit me up. I'll listen :)
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