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Okay so I really like your advice and I want to kinda break down my really long story for you! Im going to try and keep it as simple and short as possible. I met this boy about 2+ years ago and almost immediately we were a match, but things went bad very quickly. We both were big "users" him into drugs, and me into alcohol. We fought ALL THE TIME and for over a year it would have appeared as though we hated eachother but really we were just hurt and mad at eachother. One of us would do something to hurt the other person then it would go back and forth. We have finnally started talking about how we really feel and we are both willing to not forget the past but work on overcoming it.. I love this boy with all my heart and I am not ready and don't think I ever will be ready to give up on him! He is in jail for being involved in a robbery that ended up in a shooting. I would love to hear anymore advice you have. And if possible if you could give me some examples of the things I could do to occupy myself that would be great. Thank you so much.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
This is a pretty big and complex situation so I am going to break things down as best I can.
1.What is it about him that you love so much and that makes him exactly what you want?
2. I will be honest with you and tell you that I don't really feel right encouraging you wait to wait for someone who was involved in a robbery/shooting BUT if your boyfriend plans on truly changing his ways...that's a different story.
If he has had a change of heart then I can feel good about encouraging you and give you the advice that I think would fit your situation best.
3. The things that you could do to occupy yourself depend on your interests.
Ex.: Someone who likes children could consider volunteering or working at a child care center.
Think of the things that make you happy and find a way to incorporate them into your life. :) If you want to give me a list of things you like to do, your dreams, goals, etc. I would be happy to give you some advice on how to achieve/work towards those things. They can all help distract you and keep you focused on the brighter side of things.
More generalize yet more specific ideas for you would be:
-Find a family member or a friend who is struggling with something and try focusing on helping them. Reach out to others. When we are focused on helping other people with their problems we tend to have any easier time forgetting about our own.
-Do Volunteer/service work.
-Focus on getting your education, making your dreams come true, and achieving your goals.
-If you would like to give it a try, I would recommend seeking a closer relationship with God. :)
Sorry, I know that was still really long but I hope that it helped you out at least a little bit.
Be strong! You can do it!
Goodluck! <3
Rachiru~
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