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Friends only in school?
I met this boy in third grade, we became good friends, who knew we would still be friends all the way until 11th grade, best at that. Now, I tell him most things I wouldn't tell my girlfriends because they like to gossip, with him, I know he will keep everything to himself if I tell him. He tells me about this girl he likes, he sends me songs that he writes for his guitar, we are both in the marching band and we talk alot after practice, we text a lot, we talk about anything too, private life, our brothers, our parents, our plans for the week. We know pretty much all there is to know about a friend, which is weird because he doesn't open up easily. When he's with his guy friends, he laughs alot and he talks kind of loud, when he's around me, after band and we talk, his voice is kinda hushed, like he's afraid to talk to loud. My friend has problems with his brother, always thinking that his older brother is better than him, so every time I say something about his brother he says "yea, and then there's me.. the reject" so then I would continue to tell him everything he is good at. All of our friends think we are madly in love and we need to be a couple ASAP. Everyday after band, I give him his favorite pack of crackers, it's kinda our thing, everyone thinks it means more than just giving him food. Weird. Anyway, the reason I am writing this is because there is one thing that is strange for me, in all of the years we were friends, he and I have never hung out outside of school/school activities. Why do you think that is? I'll have bonfires and he will always make up excuses "Oh, I won't know anyone there." or "Oh, I'm busy, I have to practice the solo." I'm begining to think that it's because he'd be ashamed to be around me, at my house or anywhere outside of school ): My mom says it's probably because he's nervous, because he might like me as more than a friend and he won't know how to act outside of school. What do you think?
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Oh, I don't think that that is the case at all. If he were ashamed to be around you, he wouldn't hang out with you at all, at school or outside of school. He would completely avoid you. But he doesn't!
It sounds like he is nervous and maybe even insecure with you yet comfortable at the same time. I had a guy friend who was basically the same way with me and it turned out that he just really valued the time that he spent with me and he preferred spending his time alone with me, just the two of us, rather than in a big group. I also think that when we were in groups with other people ,it would make him feel a little insecure. Your friend sounds like he is the same way.
And he liked me a lot(romantically) so that obviously contributed to the way that he acted with me.
Your friend definitely isn't ashamed to be around you, don't worry about that. =) Try asking him about it! That is way better than sitting around trying to figure things out yourself.
Good luck~
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