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Love ended or ending?
I am very familiar to the quote "if you love someone you should let them go," I also know that this is not the first time anyone has heard about this.
I have this guy, who once was my boyfriend. He is very sweet, calm, successful, and he is a political figure, running for state representative right now. We were together a long while. He ended it with me, but still calls and text me. We see each other a lot. I know that he is the one that I am going to grow old with. Is he just afraid of what he want, or afraid to be happy. I know that he loves me but I think that because he is going to be a member of the office, is he afraid that being "out" will ruin his chances... I just don't know what to do anymore! So I guess I am turning to the internet:/
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If by 'out', you mean out as a homosexual, you should give up on this relationship now. If he begins his political career in the closet, it will only get more and more difficult for him to be honest about who he is.
As the stakes get higher, he is less and less likely to be willing to come out.
Regardless of your orientation, at some point his reasons for not committing to you will stop mattering. Maybe not today, or tomorrow, but at some point no matter how good his reason is, it wont be good enough to keep you sitting on your ass waiting.
Maybe he is afraid. Maybe he is being threatened by the mafia. Who knows? Eventually it wont matter why. All that will matter is that he is incapable of giving you what you want in life and love, and unwilling to tell you when he might be capable of it.
You will get around to moving on when you are ready too, but realistically, that the direction you are going in, and the one that will bring you the most happiness. This guy is unlikely to change his mind.
Flip this on it's head for a moment and recognize that it is him who needs to realize he has to let you go, even if he loves you, because he has already said that he doesn't want what you want from life.
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