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I don't know if theres any trust left. CONFUSED!
17/M (This is going to be ind of long so PLEASE bare with me. Thank you)
Well a few days ago i was hanging out with my (now ex?) girlfriend, well i go her house to pick her up and i go into her room and we talk for a little bit and i pick up these chopsticks in her room and they had a little sleeve thing they slip into so i took them out and i was playing with them and i was holing the sleeve in my other hand (up-side-down) and a half of a pill fell out if it. it was a half of a sleeping pill and i didn't really think much of it, but after she saw that i picked the little half of a pill up she started acting weird and she tried to take the sleeve away from me and that got me curious, so i started feeling down the bottom of the sleeve and there was another pill in there so i asked her what else was in there and she said "nothing why are you snooping around my stuff" so i told her "i wasn't snooping i was just playing with your chopsticks i didn't know there was something in the sleeve" but i just slipped the chopsticks back n the sleeve and handed them to her while questioning her asking what else was in there (I can deal with a lot of stuff in a relationship, but i can't stand a pill popper and she knowns that) so she takes them and puts them in her dresser and THEN tells me it was a roll (AKA; Drugs for those of you that don't know what a roll is)And then she went on to say "Oh i bought that like five months ago, i was thinking about trying it but i never did. so now i'm trying to sell it and no one wants to buy it" Well that pissed me off because i thought she was lying to me, but i was trying to give her the benefit of the doubt so i let it go. well after that we went over to my house and hung for a little bit and around 8:30 i dropped her off at her friend's house (lets call her Bethany, and my girlfriend/ex? Molly) Well they always get drunk together and i don't really care about that but i still don't like her going over to Bethany's because she is just a bad influence on Molly, so after i do that i go home and passout because i was up all night. So i wake up to some drunken texts from Molly and Bethany and then i check my facebook. Well bethany posted a new pic and it was of Bethany and Molly on some webcamming website and i read the convo on the side and it said (from some dude who they were camming with) and this is how it went from what i can see in he pick "Dude; Hi" "Them; Hey" "Dude; How old are you?" "Them; old enough" "Dude; nice" "Them; show me/" and it cuts off there because the picture didn't get all of the screen, but the next thing said "Them; thanksss" "Dude; Now you" "Them; omg" and then in the picture Molly is lifting her shirt up! Now this is on facebook so of course theres no nudity in the picture, but that doesn't mean there wasn't nudity at all right? So now i'm at a loss of what to do with this relationship, i mean i really love the girl and i know she loves me but theres just some things i can't look past anymore and it's hurting me to be with her and at the same time it's going to kill me if i leave, now after seeing that picture i set my relationship status as single and my status as "Done." hoping she would see it and know what i was talking about, but now it's been four or five days and i haven't talked to her and she hasn't tried talking to me.
But this is how i look at it, if i ask her about it and she says she didn't really lift her shirt up, i wouldn't know if she was telling the truth or not because of her not telling me about the pill so thats already killed the trust because she could have sold that pill in five minutes at her school or to her friends if she really wanted to get rid of it, and why would she be the one lifting her shirt in the picture and not her friend? This isn't like Molly at all, this reminds me more of Bethany and i don't like it.
So what do you say? Should i officially break up with her or should i try to work it out? This is a really hard one for me on my own.
But thank all you guys in advance (:
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if you don't' break up with "molly" then your life with her is going to get bad adn your will always be asking yourself if you could have found someone better, trust is everything without it th erelationship will be a hole bunch of lies
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Your girlfriend sounds like a complete idiot, Harshly put but it's the truth. Is she lying? Sure as hell sounds like it.
To the point
If she had a roll of drugs in her dresser and states she bought them 5 months ago, Why does she still have them?
1. She stated she was "selling" her drugs - Bullshit lie, Hun that was her backup that wasn't the truth
2. She is on webcam, Did she appear to be naked? Obviously you know the truth to this one or you wouldn't have to ask right?..
If she is acting suspicious and sketchy...There is probably a damn good reason for it.
I have no choice but to ask, WHY ARE YOU WITH HER? You sound like a sweet guy, You honestly don't think you can do better?...I bet you can, I bet you can do A LOT better.
Without trust in a relationship, There is no relationship at all. If she can't tell you the truth, She doesn't deserve you. You've picked up on all the clues already and it sounds like you know exactly what she is pulling, You want our opinion well here is mine..DUMP HER. Don't feed into her bullshit and once you do keep it that way. Nobody needs to waste valuable time with someone who is immature and stupid and your time is valuable.
It is not easy for anyone to have to dump someone but sometimes in order to get what you want out of life you we all got to do shit we don't want to do. It's been almost a week and she hasn't tried talking to you...This should tell you that she doesn't care much about the relationship.
Here are my guesses, I bet you I am right..
1. She is cheating
2. She is a liar
3. She doesn't respect you...
You need to move on, Forget about working it out if she can't respect you enough to keep her body off camera and put in the effort to try to stay away from alcohol and drugs...Look hun, She just simply isn't worth it. Find someone who is right for you, Who will respect you and love you. Someone who actually wants to spend their time with you.
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my boyfriend & i have liked eachother for 2 years & have been dating for 3 months
we to have trust issues.
i see why you wouldn't trust molly. if she hasn't talked to you, she obviously doesn't care enough about you. i mean, if i don't talk to my boyfriend for a few hours, both of us go crazy. i think that you should just end it with molly, as painfull as that may be. i think it would be the best for you. let her realize what she just let slip threw her fingers
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