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Unwanted sex and now unwanted Pregnancy
Hi I'm a sixteen year old girl and i have had unwanted sex with a number of guys that are way older than me. I am now currently pregnant and am freaking out on what to do.
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unwanted is very broad so i will say this lightly.
this all depends on YOU!
abortion
adoption (open or closed)
suck it up and keep it.
all options suck. im not pro life, but i must tell you that it sucks for that poor baby to be killed.
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
Unwanted sex is rape; there is no gray area here. If you willingly participated and are above the age of consent in your state it is not rape. If you are below the age of consent and the boy is over the age of 18 even though you may have willingly participated then the boy committed statutory rape and a few other felonies as well. I say this because there is a big difference in not wanting to but did and not wanting to and being forced especially when it comes to sex. The consequences for the male are considerable depending on the other factors I mentioned.
The first thing you have to do is decide what you mean by unwanted. Once you are sure of what you mean the next thing to do is to tell your parents. If you are afraid to tell your parents yourself you could seek the support of your minister or Rabbi. Your doctor could also be enlisted to help you break the news to your parents. Have a plan ready as to what you want to do. Meaning: do you want to see the pregnancy through? Do you want to abort the pregnancy? If you see the pregnancy through do you want to keep the baby or give it up for adoption?
Bear in mind this is your body and no one can force you to do anything; not your parents, not a member of the clergy, not even your doctor. In many states a pregnant minor is considered an emancipated minor giving you the legal means to make your own decisions.
But you have to start someplace and right know that place is with your parents.
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Look, first off, i know how you feel about the unwanted part. but the only thing that makes it unwanted is considered rape. You need to go to someone who can help. I know you don't want my opinion only advice, but I am pro life. There are many other options like adoption. Abortion is like taking a raw egg and sucking it out of a bag with a vacuum cleaner hose. It is inhumane on many levels. If it wasn't then why is it that many abortion clinics won't let you see the footage?? If you can't support the child, give it to a married couple who can. There are millions of couples who can't physically have a child and you are carrying one couple's miracle. Please consider this option. I know that once you abort, you will regret it for the rest of your life.
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Hello.
well first you need to tell someone that can help you, like your parent or guardian (as hard as this may be its for the best)
and if they raped you then its not your fault and you should defiantly tell someone and do something about it,
but you could have an abortion, if you don’t want to baby as its a lot of work for a 16 year old to have a baby it will take over your whole life have someone close to you that can help you get rid of the baby if you don’t want it,
go to the doctor they will be able to help you (even if its a pain to go in there as not many people really want to go there) but its for the best
so tell people, do to the doctor
and see what you can do to get rid of it,
hope this helps,
and hope the baby problem will soon be sorted out.
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