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Sex/birth control questions
16/f
I have sex with my boyfriend on a regular basis (at least 2 or 3 times a week). We have been dating for a little over 9 months now. I am his first girlfriend and first person to ever even kiss him. He's not my first boyfriend, but I've never done anything 'sexual' with anyone else. So we're each other's firsts. So, since we were virgins when we met and we've only done things with each other, I don't have any reason to be going to the gyno for checkups, right? I mean, it's not a problem if I did need to go because my mom would probably encourage it for the sake of my health, but I'm 100% sure neither of us have/had any STD's, so am I supposed to be going to the doctor?
Also, I'm a bit curious about birth control. Currently we use condoms and he pulls out too so if the condom ever broke, it wouldn't be inside me. So we're pretty safe right now, but I'm thinking birth control would be a lot safer. So I only have a few concerns about the pill;
1) I read somewhere that some birth control pills can make you gain weight. I know it's different for everyone, but does anyone know if this is a common side effect?
2) What do you think would be a good time to take it at? I know you have to take it at the same time every day, so I don't want it to be a time that I could possibly miss for any reason.
3) How should I ask my mom about it? I mean, I could go the easy way and just say I need it to regulate my period (it wouldn't be a lie, my period is very irregular) but I think it would be easier to just tell her straight out, so I won't have to continue all the sneaking around. And she's always said that I need to ask her for birth control before I decided to have sex, which I didn't really listen too, so should I just tell her I'm going to start having sex? I don't really see any reason to inform her of my previous sexcapades haha.
So yeah, those are all my questions/concerns :) thank you!
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15/f
i would say about 7 or 8. that way you will be up and be able to take it around then every day.
i do believe you should go to the gyno. you are suppose to go every 6 months but i would say once a year would be good also. (i dont go to the dentist every 6 months either).
another tip is that remember that some prescritions can affect birth control. if you are on an antibiotics then your birth control will stop working.
i would just tell you r mom you are interested in birth control and if she asks say that you plan to have sex really soon since that part is true.
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You do need to go to the gynecologist for regular checkups regardless. There's a reason why you're supposed to start either when you become sexually active or when you turn 18.
They don't just check for STDs. They also check for potential reproductive issues (irregular periods, etc), as well as checking for ovarian cysts and cancer. It's really important to go so that they can catch things before they get worse.
Here are some great websites for information on gynecologist visits:
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As for what time, make sure you pick a fairly regular time. For instance, if you sleep late on weekends, don't take it when you wake up. I usually picked a time in the middle of the day and set an alarm on my cell phone.
How you ask your mom depends on how honest you want to be with her. I'd say to tell her that you're becoming sexually active, and you'd rather be safe than sorry. She may want to offer you advice, or she may freak out (parents who act like they're all open about these things can sometimes not be once confronted with the situation). Either way, she can help you better if she knows the whole story, especially if something goes wrong.
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