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immature friend
Hello, my friend is 21 years old and has constant "high school" drama in her life. She is constantly getting into love triangles. She is constantly mopey. She is also a parent and although she is a good mother when she is with her child, i don't think she spends enough time with him because she is always going out. Should i confront my friend about her immaturity? If so how should i?
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Dear 'immature friend',
Honesty is always the best policy, even when it hurts someone you love.
You are out growing this relationship. Your friend is not mature enough, or responsible enough to handle being an adult. Her child, unfortunately, is and will suffer as a result.
The only thing you can do is voice your concerns to your friend and hope she does not resent you.
If I were in you shoes I would calmly explain to her what you see happening and that it is time she cut out the childish BS. She is responsible for what kind of person her child will be when it gets older. If she is acting like this, she is teaching her child that is normal behavior, and the child may grow up repeating the cycle.
If this behavior is not ok with you and you cannot stand to be around it, then leave. Stop talking to her. When the drama starts, you leave and have nothing to do with it. If you choose to listen to her stories and indulge her behavior, then you are enabling her. Anytime she comes to you for support in these times, turn her away. Be real friend and help her grow up.
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I hope that I helped out in some way. It is always hard to choose the right course of action when dealing with loved ones. So be careful. Her reaction might be anything, so tread lightly.
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you should be careful confronting her about it cause she might take it the wrong way. you should very calmly tell her that she has a child to raise and if she doesnt want it to grow up like that then she should spend more time with him/her
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