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29 yr Old Female: Take the high road or fight with faith?
Many people will say the best relationship is one that happens to be your best friend. Not me. I've known my guy for 15 years and we've been 'dating' for almost 8 of those years. Although we don't have kids together, we both have a daughter from a previous relationship. Our relationshp is kinda rocky. He's had unprotected sex with someone else and I took some racy pics for someone else. We both agreed to work on our relationship but I've realized I can't fully trust his words when he says 'I love you' and in turn I am unable to want or even enjoy sex with him. Any advice???
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Dear 29 yr Old Female: Take the high road or fight with faith?,
You answered this question for yourself. You did not need to ask advice here.
You stated that "I've realized I can't fully trust his words when he says 'I love you' and in turn I am unable to want or even enjoy sex with him."
Once you cannot trust each other, something changes between you. Staying in the situation is unfair to your daughter and will probably make you miserable in the long run.
I have advice for you, from my sources.
My first source tells me that you are outgrowing a period of contentment. You are no longer content with the situation. Things that were once good are now stale. Change is the only thing that remains stable for you right now. Do not be afraid to change in order to regain your balance.
My second source tells me that you collaborated with integrity, honor and loyalty. You have been met with the opposite from the other party. Continue to act in this manner, even when you are tearing down the world you have created together.
Well, there you have it!!
It is the advice of this Doktor that you should accept change and tear down the life you have created with this person in order to get on with your life!!
Often times people who lie, have a hard time becoming honest people and we have to move on. It is a fact of life that we deal with. You have powerful spirits near you that will help you though this time.
8 years is a long time, I was with the same guy for 10 years, and we had a son together. I was devastated when I found out about his affairs, that is right, more than one. i found about them when he got his cousin pregnant and took everything from me to give to her. Talk about a slap in the face!
I accepted change for a good thing and moved on, granted it was hard at first.
I have been happily married for almost 10 years to a wonderful and loyal man. He has helped me raise my son, and we have a beautiful 6 month daughter to prove our love after 10 years together.
We have achieved this happiness through three mediums: complete honesty, total trust and open communication. We deliberately stopped associating with people who contributed to lying, cheating and any one who brought DRAMA into our lives!!
Happiness is out there. I promise. You may see sadness first, but your happiness will soon gleam like a ray of sunshine leading the way to your rainbow.
I am always here for free Tarot Readings, Dream Interpretations, Palm Readings, and spiritual Guidance anytime you need it.
Take care! Good Luck!!
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maybe go see a couples counsellor or sit down and talk to eachother and try sorting out any problems you have either of these ways are effective and will for sure solve your problems and fix your relationship if not then maybe you two just dont belong together and maybe this is the end and maybe you should just move on. but try talking it out first.
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