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What is considered harrassment?
15/F/NJ
This question has an extremely long story behind it. But I'll only mention the important details.
Me, my friend J, and my ex friend A used to be the BEST of friends. One day, me and J started talking about how A has been acting so different lately. And we were getting tired of it. Long story short, we sat her down and taked to her about it VERY calmly way, I might add. And she did not take it well at all.
So, A turned around on us. The following day she got one of her friends to send me harrrassing texts saying I was,"fucked up." Ect.
I had gotten a Peer Mediation with her and we talked everything out. We both had to sign a paper saying we would cut the crap and leave each other alone.
A few months passed, and in April, A went to our school principle and claimed me and J were harrassing her. The principle told us both that they were Facebook posts, ect, where we were talking about her.
And example of said post, was something along the lines of, "Oh, this is a time I wish we were still friends with A so her mom could drive us to the mall."
And that comment was posted in Feburary. Meaning she got her friends to go through our wall posts and read EVERYTHING just to find some kind of dirt on us. And the reason I say her friends did it, is because I had her blocked from my facebook. So she couldn't see anything on my profile. And neither of us are friends with her on Facebook.
Anyway, me and J were EXTREMELY confused.
Isn't harrassment saying things to the person, calling them names to their faces. Assulting them, ect?
How on Earth is it harrassing just TALKING about the person? Also, it's not like I were talking to some random person. I was talking to J, and she's a part of all this childish drama.
Can someone please list everything that is considerd harrassment? With links, ect? Everything I find doesn't really help me all too much.
And what can happen to someone if another person fasley accuses someone of harrassing them? And in the end it's proven that the accusations were false.
Could you counter-claim harrassment on them?
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The reason your school is probably getting involved in this situation is because harrassment has become such a serious issue in high schools all over the world. Students need to be extra careful now to keep their noses clean or they could wake up with a lawsuit slapped on their backs.
Do I agree with this? Not at all. I believe as long as students are experiencing issues outside of school, it should be resolved on it's own. If it becomes a problem, then parents should become involved. Not the school system. However that's not how it is anymore, and there is no point crying over it. It's much better to just be the bigger person and move on.
What is considered harrassment is extremely vague, so it's best to be on your best behavior. Don't talk about A, don't talk to A, don't even think about A. Completely drop the situation, and don't even bring it up. Especially not on the internet. Remember, what you put on the internet stays on the internet, and can be documented evidence used against you later on.
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The law and academia are two different things. The school is interested in keeping peace in the halls of the school and should really not involve themselves in what happens outside of school, but they do.
My best advice is to get your parents involved. This is not something you can handle on your own for no matter how adult you are or in how adult a manner you approach the school system you are still a child.
They may listen to your parents. If the problem is of such a nature that requires a lawyer the lawyer is someone they will listen to because then they have to answer outside the school system. Hiring of a lawyer is something for your parents to decide.
I did answer your questions, you just don't realize it. School systems are not a democracy; it is a form of constituutional dictatorship. You have only those rights they chose to give you. That is why I told you to talk to your parents. Your questions are mute unless you choose to work outside the school system. If you do you still need your parents.
Best advice tightten who can view your posts on facebook and becareful what you say. Have your parents tell the principal to let them handle matters that occurr outside of school. He/she should be concerned with only what happens in school.
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