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Question Posted Thursday June 3 2010, 11:53 pm

i was hooking up with this guy the other night and i felt him get hard. i felt like i was almost obligated to give him a handjob, so i did. Is it really bad to just leave it and not pleasure him if you feel a guy get hard?

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FrEe2bMe answered Friday June 4 2010, 6:34 am:
First and foremost, you should never ever do anything you are not fully comfortable with doing. You know your own boundaries better than anyone. Sometimes in the heat of the moment we lose sight of those boundaries; so take a moment and think about what you are doing. If you aren't okay with it--speak up. If you are close enough to a guy to be that intimate you should be close enough to be honest with him and let him know how you feel and how far you are comfortable with going. Chances are, if he respects you and values your relationship, he will understand. If he doesn't, then he isn't the right guy. Never feel obligated to do anything. You make your own obligations. :)

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laynemayhem answered Friday June 4 2010, 4:32 am:
sometimes, its fine to not do anything. but you said you were hooking up, so in those kinds of moments its best to do so, otherwise you might be known as a "tease". but don't you do all the work. he should pleasure you, too. :) take care, and stay safe. if you go passed 2nd base, use a condom.

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