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I Don't Know How to React to This.
So, I have a friend who has been away in Afghanistan for a few months now, and he recently came home on leave. I've known for a while that he's had a thing for me, but I've made it clear that I don't feel that way about him. He's leaving again in a few days and I probably won't see him again for another six months.
We hung out today and had dinner at my place, catching up and watching a movie. When we were saying goodbye, I thought he was moving in for a simple hug, but instead, without permission or warning, he dipped his head down and motorboated me (see definition below, if you don't know what that means). I shoved his head away, saying "Hey!" loudly, but I wasn't really sure how to react. I told him he shouldn't do that while I'm in a relationship, even though I know he shouldn't have done it either way. I was, and am, very uneasy about the whole thing. He said I could slap him, so I did, but the whole thing just felt so awkward and now I have really mixed feelings about him.
I'm confused and uncomfortable. I know I should tell my boyfriend, but I'm embarrassed. Should I have been firmer? Should I have screamed at him? I like him, and we have a lot of fun together, but I've always gotten the impression that he doesn't respect my relationship, and this proves it, since he would never do something like this to one of his friend's girlfriends.
So... yeah. I'm not really sure what or if I should do anything.
Motorboat:
The act of pushing one's face in between two ample breasts, and rocking one's head side to side very rapidly while making a vigorous, lip-vibrating "brrr" sound. (urbandictionary.com)
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"I like him, and we have a lot of fun together, but I've always gotten the impression that he doesn't respect my relationship, and this proves it, since he would never do something like this to one of his friend's girlfriends."
That is exactly what you should tell him. I would also tell him that your friendship is on the line here and ask him what his deal is. He'll either come out and tell you he likes you as more than a friend or just that he's that comfortable with you. Which if he really is THAT comfortable with you, you just have to come up with boundaries and be firm about them. Like "friends hug, you should never touch my boobs, etc." lol
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