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orgasm question
Hey, so I have a question about my orgasms. In my previous relationship, I was fingered and eaten out but I never orgasmed. Partly, I blame this on my ex because he stopped after about 30 seconds, so I didn't really have time to build up to that point. I think he didn't realize that it takes a little bit of time and effort.
Anyways, when I masturbate, I have really nice orgasms and when I keep going, I can orgasm many, many times in a row. The thing is, I can only reach orgasm by squeezing my thigh and butt muscles together while I stimulate myself. I've tried to orgasm without doing this, but I have to tighten at least a little otherwise I can't. Is this abnormal?
I feel like this is another reason that my ex couldn't make me orgasm, because I wouldn't be squeezing those muscles. If we were still together, I could probably explain what I needed to do so I could orgasm, but I'm a little scared that with the next boyfriend I have, he will think its weird or something. So I'm just wondering if its normal?
Okay thanks!
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Everyone is different and everyone finds different techniques that work for them.
Squeezing those muscles is a pretty common thing and you'll probably find that alot of people do it without even realising.
Any boyfriend you have shouldn't really care that you find squeezing some muscles helps you orgasm and to be honest, if you didn't tell him he probably wouldn't even notice.
Finally, bear in mind that it's really common for women to only be able to orgasm alone. If you end up stressing and worrying about the fact that you can't, you won't be able to enjoy sex at all and you'll just further reduce your chance of orgasming with your next boyfriend.
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i don't know if it is abnormal because i have the exact problem. my boyfriend gets so depressed sometimes because i don't orgasms during sex..i'm like "i've never been able to, it's not your fault" lol. but i don't think that they'll think it's weird.
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they may not notice. are u like clintching or litarly hands on squeezing. If its just clentching they will think its a reaction to you getting off but ifs its hands on maybe tell them you love the pressure and its a trick to make it awesome guys wont mind at all they will be happy you told them so they can make you happy.
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