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Should i move on???
I am a 20 year old woman and my boyfriend is 21. We have been togeather for 5 years and living togeather for 3 years. He has always said how much easier it would be if we lived in seperate houses, because we are constantly arguing over who's turn it is to clean what, and he drinks quite a bit. Now recently he is saying he feels like he holds me back and i could make something of myself if i never met him. I explain it wasn't him that changed me but at the same time i think he might have. We have to live togeather because right now finacially we can't afford not too, but i have all of these thoughts swirling in my head. I feel as if i am not getting anything but mixed signals. I love this man with all my heart and i know he loves me but i'm not quite sure we are "in love" anymore. The only thing that scares me is this was my first boyfriend and i couldn't imagine having anyone else by my side for the rest of my life. What do i do!!!
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It sounds to me like the two of you need a little time and space to really figure out who you are as individuals. What you DON'T want is to keep hanging on in a relationship that isn't making either of you happy right now and wind up 5 years down the road feeling like you've wasted all that time. Since you can't move, maybe you two need to have an honest conversation about moving on from this relationship (at least for a little while) and what that looks like while you are still living together. I can't tell you what will happen in the future, but I CAN tell you that if you do nothing, nothing will happen.
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you stay with him and work something out.even if you have to make a roster.this isnt soemthing huge to argue over.it doesnt matter who cleans what.
you have been together for 5years thats a long time ofcourse it wont feel like it was the first time you guys started dating because at that time you were still getting to know him and excited to see him.
go on dates,go out to dinner, watch movies together.try and surprise eachother now and then
just because the hunny moon stage is over doesnt mean your relationship should be over too.to be honest i praise you for being with someone for 5years some people cant even do a year.
talk to him about it.it seems you both have an open relationship so talk to him and tell him you wnat to go out on dates and be surprised and you need to do the same to him
but whayever you do dont breakup unless your reallly not happy
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