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SHE CHEATED NOT SURE WHAT TO DO
my girlfriend cheated on me with her ex and everything is all screwed up now were still together but i dont trust her at all anymore im always wondering what she's doing and who she's talking to it doesnt help that she works at a bar to i mean i guess i still love her but it makes me sick just thinking about what she did how am i supposed to trust her again
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You chose to stick by her side for a reason after she cheated because you obviously care for her Im really not sure how you can trust this girl after she cheated on you with her ex and not some random person there had to be some sort of feelings involved there you need to confront her talk to her about your feelings thats basically all you can do..my saying is once a cheater always a cheater and once they get caught they only try that much harder to hide it from you..good luck
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I know how you feel, I went throught something like this and I know if I had given her a 2nd chance. I'd make sure she promises me that she'll promise to change. Best advice I can tell you is, you got to talk about it, don't be soft niether cause she won't take you serious. Just talk about it with her & tell her to be honest with you.
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That's horrible and I'm very sorry :/
You can't help that you feel that way, its your right to feel that way she betrayed you. None of its your fault. Make sure you talk with her tell her how you feel, tell her hoesntly that you can't really trust her anymore. Talking is the best remedy. It will take time but you will eventually trust her again, just as long as she promises to be faithful to you. Make sure you talk to her and let her know why you feel the way you do.
I hope I helped. >.<
Emily <3
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I guess it all depends on what you want. Is she someone you want to marry and be with the rest of your life? If yes, I would suggest you seek some couples counseling. Its important to discover what led to the affair, so a way can be determined to avoid it in the future. And can you forgive her? Forgiveness means not holding it against her, at all. Its tough, and a process. As for her working in a bar, if you feel this is the cause of the issues you both are having, maybe its time to sit down and have a serious conversation. How much does she want things to work? Is she willing to make a couple changes in her life to help put you at ease? Are you willing to do the same for her? Relationships are not about making ourselves happy, they are about caring about the person we love more than ourselves. If you do all that you can for her, and she does all that you can for you, you both will be taken care of, and hopefully happy. There is a book, called the "Love Dare"...I believe it was created to help relationships that are struggling. I reccommend you get a copy, and go through each step, but dont tell her about it till the end. As for the sick feeling, its tough, I know. But in time that yucky feeling in your gut will start to fade. Hang in there.
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Heyy there,im real sorry to hear that :(
Okay so you really need to ask yourself is this really worth it?
do I want to be in a relationship where Im constantly feeling paronied?or I can't trust my gf?
When you think about it what kind of relationship is that?
she really needs to proove to you that shes truely sorry..she needs to earn your trust back..
you need to sit down and talk to her about all this if you havnt already..tell her how much it hurt you that you need to feel like you can trust her again for this to stand any chance.
If you can't which is totally understandable I would say move on now..if you stay in something where theres no trust shes just going to get iritated of you accusing her of stuff she may or may not be doing and it will fall apart anyway.
You need to decide if its worth the second chance..go with your gut instinct you probably already know the answer. If she shows no interest signs of remorse..is always gone then dude im sorry to say shes really not worth it..you deserve way better.
I hope this helped.. good luck :)
and much <3
Jess 16/f
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