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Shy guy at school looking to open up to girl
I am an 18 year old senior in high school and am finding that it's hard to "let loose" and let my personality be out in the open (versus when being with very good friends); it's all very controlled. I am the shy type who is not that popular, but there is a girl (who is a bit up there on the social ladder) who has been showing interest in me, which she expresses in subtle ways. However, when I am shy or can't think of anything to say (so the consequence would be saying something dumb), any response to her seems to be a turn-off right away, while when I'm confident and feeling "in the zone" (when I sort of forget where I am and who I'm talking to), things really seem to be going really well. I really want to get over this however as I'm way more shy than outgoing, any help? This has been a problem for most of my life in social situations. Being purposely confident and outgoing have backfired (as it's forced and basically acted out), however I can't express my personality when I am shy as well...
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Hey,
This is coming from a 22 year old guy. My advice is pretty straight forward though. You seem like a good guy. Eventually you have to let her know that you like her though. One thing is a guarantee and that is if you do nothing at all you have a 100% chance that nothing will happen! So you have to make a move. If your shy write her a note or something if you can't say it in person. Ideally though the more time you spend with her and talking to her the easier it's gonna be for both of you.
You're in high school too and a senior so if it doesn't work out than who cares cause you leave in a year!! Trust me college is even more fun and the girls are more fun too...
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awwww thats soo cute!shy guys are so cute!
to be honest theres this boy that i kinda like but hes soo shy tooo and when we talk hes quiet and isnt so out there so it makes me shy and i start saying dumb things lol
dont worry its normal and actually hard to get over because you dont mean to do it.i really think you should try and talk to her more.firstly let her know that your shy but you think shes a cool her and would like to get to know her more.Another good way to show that your a cool guy is by txting her.ask for her number and get to know her through txts that way she can see how you really are.have short conversations with her so that theres less awkward quiet moments.talk on the phone and try to think of anything to talk about.favoyurite colour,beaches,family,just anything that will help you make conversation.then once your alittle more use to her ask her to hang out just you two.that way you know her and she knows you so she wont feel like you dont want to talk to her.when you hang out ofcourse at the start itll be awkward and weird but try and just ask questions.lots of questions and just listen to what she talks about that way shes doing mast the talking and your listening (to kill time so that you can get use to her and be less shy)
just be yourself and if it takes you a few shy moments for you to loosen up then i think she should stick it up because im sure your a lovely guy :)
hope this helped
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