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what could it be?
I have known this guy forever. A guy thats like my big brother and him are best friends and I guess one day my big brother gave him my number. We usually text everyday, we have hung out some times too. I really have a crush on him. We havent had sex and we flirt and theres tension between us, and he has even got drunk before and wanted me to come over to have sex and he will joke on me but still talks to me. He has a racecar and is usually busy 9 months outa the year and I understand and accept it, but do you think he might like me or not?
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Well I think it is obvious that he would like to have sex with you. But if it is love that you want, then don't settle for sex. The more you hold out, the more he will desire you. He will come to understand that you are not easy and that you don't just take your clothes off for anyone. And since he is a race car driver I would guess that he has a big ego and that lot of girls are after him.
He will come to believe that you are special. And he will always think of you that way, if you continue to avoid having sex with him. Flirt all you want, and tell him you think he is special. that is OK. Then some day, (and it won't be soon) he will want to settle down, and I can assure you he WON'T be interested in any of the girls that he has already had sex with. So it is up to you dear. You can hold out until he is ready to commit, but you'll have to be patient. Or you can let him sweet talk you into going to bed with him, and soon after that, you'll never hear from him again. And when you do run into him and he barely acknowledges you.....you'll feel cheap and used. Men have not changed, not for hundreds of years. They always want free, unencumbered sex, they will always ask for it, and always make you feel like you are the most important person in the world, at that moment. But when you give in, they soon forget you. I guess it is just their nature. Sure some day they grow up, and realize that is not the kind of life they want to live, so they change for the better. That is when you want to be around, and that is when, the less "experience" you have, the better your chances. (I hope I am making myself clear.) And please allow to me say here. Of course they are exceptions to every rule. We all know some high school sweethearts that got married and years later are still crazy about each other. But that is rare. The chances that this guy is looking for a long term relationship and already knows that he wants to marry you some day and you be the mother if his kids, well those chances are slim to none. So don't go there, girl!
Hope this helps
Michele
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To be quite honest, no, he doesn't like you. He may like you as a friend, and may find you attractive, but I don't think he respects you enough to wanna date you.
He has gotten drunk and asked if you'd like to come over and have sex. That alone says he does not want a commitment and that he just wants to fool around no strings attached. He also knows that you like him. He more than likely wants to be friends with benefits, but that never works out because someone develops feelings and then the relationship becomes awkward.
Don't get involved with him. Keep him as your friend, but also keep in mind that he isn't necessarily someone you want to sleep with or date. Don't get involved with anyone sexually if you're not in a monogamous relationship because things will get messy and dramatic.
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