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He is ruining my reputation
So i used to like this guy since the beginning of the school year...five months later he found out from one of my friends that i liked him...we started talking and then ended up haning out...he doesn't drive so one of his friends was going to drive us to the movies....it was me, him, and a whole bunch of his other friends all squeezing in one car....we ended up going to one of his friend's houses and then all his friends left to go pick up their other friend...i didn't want to stay at the house alone with him because the whole time i was thinking...oh my gosh...i feel set up, i feel like they are are going to make up lies about the whole situation so we should have never stayed.....while we were at the house, we talked...and he ended up wanting to do stuff/get down...but i told him i'm not that type of girl that i have to get to know him....so we ended up just kissing/making out....a while later he decided that since i wasn't down for anything he was going to call his friend to come and get us....so they all came back...and they thought we had done something but we didn't do anything....the next day i started hearing all kinds of rumors that he had spread that he and i had gotten down and i had given him head!!! oh my gosh i was freaking out...but i decided to keep calm and just ignore it.....i knew he was just saying all that stuff to look cool.....so now a month later.....i hear more rumors that he is still talking about it saying that i was in love with him and the same things about us getting down...it really hurts me, and i have dealt and ignored with it long enough......so i feel like it time that i confront him about it....if you guys have any advice about the situation please tell me because i am so desperate to know what you guys think...i know the whole thing is my fault...i should have never agreed to go to his friends house and let them leave us there because anyone would think we were doing stuff...and i know no matter how hard i try people will keep thinking that..even though nothing happend....it just hurts to be called a slut, which is something i know i am not...i just don't know how to deal with this so whatever advice you guys might have thank you so much...sorry if this was long
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First of all I would like to say, that I'm sorry this guy did all of this to you..you don't deserve this treatment at all..and this guy is very pathtic and imature. I think that confronting him would be the best. Tell him you had enough, and your done with him. Yes, it won't stop anything that happend..and your reputation..is pretty much messed up but if people see you confront him...they may believe you. The most important thing is that you know your not like that, and you KNOW your not a slut and you respect yourself..it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks. I hope I helped? >.<
good luck :)
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Well confronting him may feel good for a few minutes, but it will show him that he succeeded in bothering you. And it could give him incentive to continue. Ignoring him is best, because eventually he will be talking about someone else. What would be best though would be to get him back. Starting rumors about him, especially his manhood would be a great way to get him back. Maybe not start a rumor at all, just make a joke about it to his face in front of his friends. Some like. "give you head???? Yeah sure, if you could get it up! Can you actually get an erection? Maybe you should try Viagra. Then walk away, real fast. with your head up and your nose in the air. If you could have a couple of friends with you who start to laugh at him, that would be great. And his friends will laugh at him too. I don't know, with this you are taking a chance that this problem won't go away until you are both out of high school, but it is fun. He may try to get you back. But continue to ignore it. But don't trust him either, and never, ever be alone with him again, cause he may try to force himself on you, just to get back at you. Guys can be real jerks. You already know this guy is a jerk.
Michele
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Hi sorry about your situation. If you can't ignore it anymore the right thing to do is go confront him. Tell him loud and clear that you don't want to hear any more of these rumors, and he better stay away from you. But just be careful if he is one of those bad guys he might talk more and disturb you. Well I know it hurts but you know who you are and people you care know who you are so don't spoil your mood for this. Good luck!
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