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Can guys switch off their feelings?
I know its a stupid question. But me and my boyfriend broke up last week, he initiated it. I know I have to move on because I dont think we will get back together. Only a week before we split up he was saying how hes the happiest hes ever been with a girl, saying I am perfect and that he is falling in love with me. After a few days of not really speaking to eachother he says he thinks we should break up and its going to be really hard to get over me and he does really like me but he doesnt see our relationship heading anywhere. Im not going to beg for him back or anything like that, but do you think his feelings about me were genuine? We dated for 4 months and we were good friends before that. Even though we arent together I would like to think he still thinks of me.
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There are some guys out here who can turn their feelings on and off,but most cant, It takes time for them to get things right in their heads so don't judge every guy the same, cos there are a lot of nice blokes out there
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I firmly believe that the hardest part about a break up is accepting the 'not knowing'.
You are probably never going to know for sure what was going through his mind. You can talk to him about it, and he might tell you the best truth he has, but it's still unlikely to be the whole truth. It will be how he thought about it after the fact.
Even then, that's only if he even tells you the best truth he has. It's far more likely he'll make some lame, cliched attempt to not hurt your feelings, and not reveal his most intimate thoughts.
Welcome to life.
I'm sure his feelings were genuine, both when he wanted to be with you, and when he didn't. Just because a feeling is genuine though, doesn't mean it will stay the same or be justified. One of the ways to stay happy and open in the world, is too respect the people and believe they mean it when they say what thier feelings are. Very few people will deliberately lie or mislead, most will just honestly change thier minds.
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