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Help me get her back
Ok so a very close friend of mine was taken advantage of by this ex boyfriend of hers while he was in a relationship with a new girl. He told her he loved her and so on and so forth and that he hated his current girlfriend but then once my friend ended the affair (due to her finding out she was only one of about 6 girls he was cheating on his girlfriend on) he ran to his girlfriend and told her she forced herself on him. So now this girl has been terrorizing my friend bitching her out sending her contact info to freaks and trying to contact my friends mom so she can tell her shes had sex. I wanted to cheer my friend up a lil so i sent a question to formsprings to her but she like sorta owned me. So i could really use some help getting her back with a great response.
Here it is
Dontcha think someone over-zealous and dim-witted should be a little less vocal?
I honestly could care less what people think of me xD. I'm one to follow my heart and i do what i believe to be correct. In the end, I'm always happy with my decisions and i only listen to those close to me xD. Don't you think if one has something to say about someone else, they should say it to their face directly? I might talk shit, but i never have an issue talking that shit to someones face =)
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THIS SOUNDS EXACTLY LIKE MY FRIEND !
She rung her mom and everything to tell her what she did.
heres what my friend did:
She told her mom some of the truth but explained that this girl was trying to get back at her for some reason and to not believe everything she said.
She ignored this bitchy girl, and everyone started to see that my friend was right and now everyone just ignores that other girl.
its hard when you get used by a boy but from experience I know that it won't all work out for him
What goes around comes around and he won't be so lucky forever
hope i helped ? xoxoxo alice xoxoxo
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Dear Help me get her back,
The situation you described has a lot of turns and curves and is a bit difficult to follow. What it sounds like is that you want to get some revenge on the female who is trying to hurt your dear friend. Not that this is the best way to resolve this, but if my thought is correct, then you are a good friend. You feel the hurt and embarrassment of your friend that is not your own.
I would tell you this, do not try to cheer her up or do anything other than be there for her to listen when she needs to talk. The emotions she experiences is necessary for her to heal. I understand as a male that your nature is to fix what is going wrong in the lives of the females you care about. However, just remember that for females it is not usually about that. You will be such a great friend if you just listen and understand the frustration she is feeling right now.
Unfortunately, she became involved with a compulsive liar who cares about NO ONE - trust me when I say not even himself. Therefore, he does not care about who he hurts or the pain it causes while he lives his life.
Right now, in order to move beyond this fiasco, your friend needs to live her life to the full in real time- NOT ONLINE. Outside of blocking and/or deleting this trouble-making chic from her various online sites, she needs to be active. Go to amusement parks, the pool/beach, for walks/hiking, snorkeling - i know that may sound crazy. My point is do something with her that she's never done before. She will learn that the drama the guy has going on is insignificant. While they sit around waiting for her to get online she OUT having the time of her life! They will seem so pathetic--as they in fact are.
In conclusion, be there by listening and coming up with great ideas of new and exciting activities to share with one another. You both with solidify the realness of your friendship, and in the long run she will realize and appreciate what you have done by just allowing her to be.
Take care,
DeeplySetting
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