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grr! >:o
so i am majorly in love with this guy! he's the only one i wanna be with.. i told him i loved him and he didnt say it back.. which i didnt expect him to. but the thing about him is that he isnt very open about his feelings and i am obviously! how do i get him to open up to me? i really wanna be with him!!! :( thanks..
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cludy gave a great answer, i just want to add one thing about the meaning of "i love you" to men and women which sometimes is the root of the problem.
to some people, "i love you" represents an intensity and maturity of the relationship that puts you on the road to marriage and a lifetime commitment.
to other people, "i love you" is merely saying" i really have intense feelings for you" and implies nothing more than an entre to a sexual relationship.
The obvious stereotype is that men think the former and women the latter. Another stereotype is that cynical guys will say "i love you" simply because they know it is what a woman wants to hear. The point is that both parties need to understand what the words mean as applied to the present relationship. As always, communication is the key.
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You may as well learn this now, MOST guys are not open about their feelings, simple as that. It is very frustrating and can cause lots of issues, but most men just are not comfortable being vulenrable in front of anyone. Your best bet is to not come on too strong, just hang out with him let him know that you like him, want to be with him and go from there. Don't be expecting things out of romance novels and hollywood because most guys aren't like that, but if he does care about you too then you will see it in little things :)
Hope I Helped :)
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