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My roommate is a really good friend but a HUGE liar!!
I recently met a girl at the bar about 3 months ago. We really hit it off and had ALOT in common and we got along BETTER than GREAT! There is a bit of an age difference between us... she is 11 years older than me to be exact. I am so mature for my age however, that it's not uncommon for me to have friends that much older. I am 19 years old and I had my own house, car, job ect. and I hated living alone! About a month after we met and talked everyday and hung out quiet often, she told me she was in a really abusive relationship with her boyfriend that she was living with in a town about 3 hours away. I asked her why she wouldn't leave and she told me over & over it was because she had no place to go. I offered her and her 6 year old son the spare bedroom in my house and even offered to come all the wat up there and move them down here and she thanked me but politely refused. when I asked her why she said "bacause I love him with all of my heart and could never leave him" About a week later I was really stressing over her and her sons well-being in the situation she was in because of some of the stories she was telling me about things he did to her in front of her son (slap, choke, hinch, ect.) and was determined to get them out of that house and away from that man. I introduced her to my Uncle because I figured that if I couldn't convince her to leave, maybe he could if she knew there was something good waiting for her here. 2 days later she moved in with me and we agreed to SPLIT the bills. Shes been living with me for two months now and has not paid a single bill. Everytime I confront her about the money she always has a new excuse of why she didn't have any and even told me one time that her wallet got stolen but I realized that somehow it magically appeared in her hands 3 days later!(I guess after she had forgotten she ever even told me that lie) I recently caught her sneaking out and leaving her son asleep in her bed alone! She didn't know I had caught her so I waited up and she didn't get home until 6am when I was supposed to be up for work. When she came walking in the door i would ask her where she was coming home from and she would say something like..I went to the store real quick...or I went for a walk...or I had to run out to my car for a second. Come to find out she'd been seeing a number of different guys behind my Uncles and my back and getting money from them! She is AWAYS lying about money and even tho I KNOW I should just kick her out, I really do love her and her son and do not want to put them out on the street with nowhere to go. I'm at the point where i've given her so many dead lines to get a job and come up with rent money that honestly even tho I do love her i'm beginning to harbor bad feelings against her. It's a sad thing considering if she would just get her act together we would be GREAT roommates because I do love her just like my sister and besides the money situation, we get along flawlessly. Recently i've found out something that leads me to believe that she even lied about her abusive ex...as a matter of fact I don't think he was abusive at all. Since I am starting to harbor bad feelings about her because of the lies she tells and the financial bind this situation has put me in because I am having to sopport 3 people, i'm afraid if she dosen't get out soon there will be no chance of us being friends in the future. Even if she does get out, I am afraid that there is still no chance of us being friends. After she has lied to me, screwed me over and put my in the financial bind of a life time, my feelings are hurt more than anything. Why do I still love her after all she has done and what do I do? I've always herd that saying "Don't let money come between you and those that you love." So honestly I have no idea what to do.
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hun i know you are 19 but you are not in a friendship or relationship with this woman youve adopted her and are raising her. you need to look at your self in the mirror and tell yourself how are you ever going to settle down when you are raising a woman who is older than you. dont grow up yet. i am 18 i have 3 children 2 of which are mine. im married and i love my life dont get me wrong but sometimes i would like to be alone or be in law school witch was my dream. be you hang out witrh ur friends. now for that child you need to call social service ask them for advice tell them about this woman and you tried to help her and her son and she just leaves him alone like that. shes not adult she acts a teenager she needs to relize its time to grow up.
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