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Not You..Your Friend? Part 2
Hey Lola! This Is The chick that had the "should I date his friend" problem.I absolutely Loved Your Advice and decided to get more of it becuase u keep it real. But anywho,I took your advice the first tyme and completely left my ex-boyfriend ALONE! And me and his friend are getting closer.He Is Coming Into town from college for spring break and he invited me to come over to his place since his mother will be absent the whole break.Yeah..Wow.So the thing is,I have no idea what to do.Should I go Becuase I was ThinkinG About going but i have no idea on how I should act in front of him.This would be the first time that we would be alone together And since i turn into a clumsy fool in front of my crushes I just dont wanna mess this one up.I want Him 2 Start feeling me without doing to much you know? I dont wanna seem easy but I do want him to know that I do Like Him Alot.And what should I wear? Something simple? Something Sexy? Or A lITTLE OF BOTH? hELP!?
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Okay honey, I don't see a reason why you shouldn't go to his place, but at the same time, something tells me that its a bit too fast, its like you jumped a major step, from you crushing over him to actually going over to his place and who knows what might happen there. You know, if something happened, like you had sex or even he tried to, it wouldn't make you look 'easy' to him, its just the feeling of two people sitting alone in a house and feeling something for each other which makes them think of things and do things. On the contrary when its two people who've known each other for a while and are officially dating, they can then control their emotions and know what they're gonna do with each other and how to react.
And that's one point.
Other thing is, you can go, honey your free to go, it's not my job to tell you whether to go or not, but its my job to advice you on what your gonna do there. If you think you can control things over there and that its completely no worry for you, then go ahead. And when you go there, its gonna be weird and awkward and your gonna be shy and your gonna blush and your face is gonna go red and your going to say stupid things and act clumsy,and do all those little thingys that you think would give him a bad impression about you, but it won't, that's what we always think, but it won't, infact it will tell him that you like him, and that you are trying hard to make a good impression, meaning that you care about him and what he thinks. Don't worry, he won't make fun of you or lose interest or think that your stupid or anything just because you'll act a bit clumsy, a real clumsy person shows, but the clumsy type of person because he's shy or feeling awkward is something different.
When you go there, you be yourself, be your complete normal self, like you sitting with a friend or with yourself, talk like you always talk, and don't exaggerate or make up stories to sound cool or interesting, and don't try to attract him by acting in any way that is just not you. Cause once when he falls in love with you, he's gonna fall inlove with you as in the real you, as in the normal every day you, not a fake makeup impression that your gonna set the first time. You get me? And if he likes you, then he'd like you for you, and if he didn't ,then screw him lol he doesn't deserve you, which will not happen by the way hehe.
About what to wear, don't wear something showing too much skin so he wouldn't think you wanna do it with him, and don't wear something that is too slutty (no offense) so he wouldn't think your being too easy, and don't wear something long and with sleeves and hide all your skin lol so it wouldn't be nun-like or anything. Just wear what you wear everyday, like your normal self, but make it pretty. Like a normal outfit but a pretty one, one that makes you pretty, that shows your figure in a decent way. You know how everyone usually has 'THE' Outfit, or your favourite outfit or something, that just looks great on you, you know.
So in the end, you going or not going is something completely up to you, but my job is to be here and advice you on either of your choices.
So if you don't go, because maybe you wouldn't feel comfortable, maybe you can suggest hanging out or meeting somewhere, doing something else special but outside amongst people, seeing that your not actually an official couple,and your still new at this together.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me, and please update me if you want, and I'll be there for you. Best of luck :D
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