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Big Mess i created!!!!!
hi i am a 19/f, and i recently befriended an older boy in my class. he's 24/m. Well we started talking in class,and we would talk about the class or i would ask about him. well anyways we started talking on facebook as well cause i added him. and outside class when he saw me he would smile at me. So i thought maybe he liked me but was too shy to ask me out. In class one day we were talking, and he told me he was a fitness trainer and i didn't believe him so he gave me his business card, and it had his cell phone number on it. i texted him a few days later and he didn't recognize my number, and i told him who i was and then he said that he didn't think anyone would text him that late, and i said i hope you don't mind. And then he said that he did be cause of his girlfriend, and also because he said he uses it for business purposes. I was very disappointed because i thought he liked me. i told my therapist about how i liked him and she told me since i am not allowed to date, to only make friendly conversation with him, but instead i ended up calling him and making a fool of myself. And when i told her what happened she said that i shouldn't have texted him so late or even at all since i wasn't even allowed to date. She also said that he was only trying to be friendly, and that he wasn't shy like i thought he was, but he was never interested in me. And if he was he would've already asked me out. She assured me everything would be fine and im just a little naive. I really wish i wasn't so how can i change this? Also how do you know if a guy really likes you and isn't just shy? Because im super embarrassed, and i plan on sitting with my other friend for the rest of the semester. please help!!
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I'm pretty sure you already posted this question, and I'm pretty sure the answers you got all said just relax, everybody does embarrassing things sometimes, just ride it out and learn from it. But quit obsessing about it! You're just going to make yourself feel worse. If you keep thinking about it you're going to stress yourself out. You need to learn how to learn from your mistakes and not punish yourself so much. And don't contact this guy anymore. He's clearly creeped out... you don't want to be THAT person!
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ok first of all, you sound WAY TOO obsessive. you're blowing everything out of proportion. it doesnt sound like he likes you, i'm sorry. some guys just want to be friends. and you shouldnt call/text him everyday because its just going to annoy him and drive him away further. your theropist is right, no matter how much it hurts, you have to let go or it'll just get uglier. just stop.
take care.
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