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love triangle
My best friend of 5 years, "A" has been dating this guy "B" they have had a lot of problems and have been on and off for almost 2 years. they finally broke up for good a month ago.
I respect both of them so I asked "B" if I could later on in the future, date my best friend because Ive always liked her but never dated her or told her till 2 months ago.
"B" said he doesnt want to be with her right now but he doesnt want to lose her. What "A" and "B" decided to do is "take a break & become better friends" they arent together. they talk/text here and there. they hang out twice a week if that. they both have decided to not date anyone else on this break.
If "B" doesnt know if he wants to date "A" or if "A" is the best thing out there and "A" knows she wants to be with him, then why should "A" bother waiting. Shouldnt "B" just let her go and live her life with whatever other guy. He broke up with her by the way. What if during this break some other girl starts talking to "B." "B" doesnt date her, just talks to her as friends and slowly develops a crush for this new girl and then tells "A" she gets crushed again and is all alone.
I dont think any of this is fair to "A" am i wrong or right. what can i tell both of them? if he loves her and cant let her go then why doesnt he just date her?
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You heard of any love triangles? They end pretty horrible. Best thing you can do is, ignore it. You shouldn't mess in love situations. Don't turn it into a love triangle. Just sit down, sip a beer(if you drink), play some games(if your a gamer) read a book (if a reader), or watch T.V. (you don't fit in above).
I'm only recommending this because I've been in a love RECTANGLE, and it ended in me having to actually move to a different town.
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Stay out of it!
Remember, THEY decided, both of them together, to take this break and she has chosen, just as much as he has, to not quite be completely broken up yet.
You might be right that it's not 'fair', but A has agreed to it and it's between the two of them.
She knows you like her, and so does he. If she really wanted to be with you, she could make that happen. If he really wanted to step out of your way, he could make that happen too! They are choosing NOT to do those things.
Let them make their own agreements, and keep them or break them as they see fit. What you believe to be fair might be completely true, but it's also irrelevant. How they choose to run their relationship is up to them. They both know how you feel, and apparently, it doesn't change anything about what they want to do. Sometimes life just sucks like that.
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