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is this too much?
So this guy and I have been really close friends since september...He only told me about a month or two ago that he likes me a lot....i never saw him in that way so we stayed friends...he has done so many things for me to prove how much he cares...like getting me two new phones when i lost the ones that I had....helping me find things that i had lost....being there for me when i was down and etc....I started liking him only about two weeks ago......we talk on the phone and see each other all the time at school....the one problem I have with him is that he is so demanding...like when we hang out he will kiss me or whatever, but he ends up wanting too much....like he wants to have sex...it becomes to the point where he is pushing everything too much...i can't take it....it makes me feel like he wants me for sex...but then at the same time I think of everything he has done for me and how he treats me when he's not trying to be all freaky....i don't know what to do...I have told him that i have standards. I'm seventeen, and i'm not ready to give up my virginity to any guy yet...He doesn't quiet understand for some selfish reason, and its getting on my nerves because it has happend twice...i really don't know what to do....what do you guys think about this situation? thank you so much for reading this.
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This is the first of many lessons you'll learn about guys over your lifetime - they'll say or do ANYTHING to get your pants off! You feel like he is being so nice to help you and talk with you, etc., but given how pushy he is when you're alone I think its safe to say the only reason this guy did any of that stuff for you is so he could get in your pants. Sorry, I know it feels bad to know that. I'm sure you don't deserve that at all, but its quite common for losers like this guy to "buy" the affection of a pretty girl. I know you like him, but ditch him. Actions speak louder than words. Every time you accept a gift from him he is expecting something more in return. Nothing good can come of that. Stop accepting his help and leave him in the dust. You deserve a young man who talks to you and helps you because he really cares for you and wants nothing except to see you happy. They're out there, but you'll never find them as long as you keep wasting your time with guys like this.
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You have to be firm. Let him know if he wants you to like him back, he has to stop being so demanding. Tell him flat out that you are not ready to have sex, you won't be ready for a long time, and if you change your mind he will be the first to know. Tell him next time he throws himself at you, you are going to end the friendship.
Tell him how much you appreciate everything he does for you, but sex is not something you are willing to return the favors with. Let him know you really do like him, but not when he acts pushy and creepy. Being firm doesn't make you a bitch. It just means you know what you want, and a guy isn't going to change your values.
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