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love triangle??
18f, it's so sad to say I can't stop shaking right now because of what i just heard and this whole situation. it may be long but i'm honestly depressed because of this so i will return the favor 100%.
there is this guy i like, his name is joe. we have known each other for a while. he broke up with his girlfriend of two years about 6 months ago, now he is a free man. he doesn't know what he wants though, he's kind of playing the field. one time he will be flirting with me and putting his arms around me, the next he will be cuddling with another girl by the fireplace.
sometimes i feel like he is intimidated by me which makes him shy away and not necessarily "put the moves on me" first. i'm older than him, by about a year and everyone tells me how gorgeous i am (do not want to sound conceited) so i'm thinking that may be the reason he isn't so out there with me.
it's basically between me and this other girl - samantha. the funny thing is my cousin nick, is joes good friend and also next door neighbor. joe goes back and forth between me and samantha, and we're both nicks cousins, from other sides of the family. it's a confusing situation!! i really dislike her, for good reasons. well bascially joe thinks that i don't know what he does with samantha, but my cousin (nicks sister) tells me everything. so a couple months ago i confronted joe about it asking if he liked her. of course he denied it saying "if i liked her i'd be dating her by now." then he was like why are you jealous? and i was like no, i just don't like her. and if you like her just tell me the honest truth because i want to know.
well tonight my cousin texts me saying that she walked in from coming home and saw joe and samantha cuddling by the fireplace. when i got the text, my hands started shaking and it ruined my whole night. i can't take this any more. why won't he admit to me that he likes her? joe hasn't kissed either of us, we don't get physical and i know samantha has never even kissed a guy before.
samantha uses nick to get to joe, and it upsets me. i will go to nicks to hang out with NICK, not to hopefully see joe like samantha does. when she is over there she doesnt even talk to nick and i tell nick this and he doesn't even say anything. it makes me so mad.
joe hasn't told either of us that he likes us, and i havent even told him i liked him but i just thought the feeling was mutual. i just feel like i don't even want him touching me anymore because i'm so much better than that, and than her. but next time he tries, i feel like i should say something about samantha but i don't want to sound like a creep and be like "i heard this, and this and this.." that would just be awkward.
how do i control this situation?? i can't stop thinking about it. i feel like she won, and i won't let that happen ..
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If the guy is playing the field then that should tell you he isn't for a serious relationship, If he dates Samantha that doesn't mean she won in fact let her have him. In the end she is the one that is dating a guy that likes to toy with peoples feelings. Listen, As hard as it is to hear this someone who can't focus on one and only one is not mature enough to have a serious relationship nor is ready for commitment. Relax, Breathe, If he decides to date her then let it happen I can almost promise you by the way you've describe him that it probably won't work out anyway. Clearly, The guy is immature and doesn't seem to know what he wants. You focus on you, You don't deserve someone like that anyway and when the time is right you will meet someone who wants to be with you and only you. As much as it hurts you now know that if you don't end up with someone like that you've not only saved yourself a heartache but you are the stronger one in the end. Let Samantha learn the hard way...She has it coming.
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Ask him on a date, forget Samantha, just really go for him. Don't even think about Samantha, if you show him you like him then he'll start liking you more and eventually even he will forget about Samantha. Then you can smell sweet sweet victory, and have the guy!
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