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Sex doesn't feel good
Me and my boyfriend are both 16 and we had sex for the first time a couple nights ago. It took about an hour and lots of frustration to get it to even go in, I'm pretty tiny and he's...not. I guess lube or a condom could help that. I also have some extra clitoris that my gyno said many girls have. That got in the way. Does anyone else have that and how do they deal with it?
And also, I know it is supposed to hurt the first couple of times but we have done it about 10 times and it still hurts just as bad a the first. It does not feel good at all. And it should feel good, it should be great...it's SEX! What is the problem? I want it to be an enjoyable thing for both of us. I don't like it at all. Everyone loves sex! What's wrong with me?
Thanks in advance
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When it comes to sex, especially for teenagers, the comfort for the female is most important. The comfort I speaking of is where and how you are having sex. Lets’ face it when it comes to sex the teenage male thinks with his penis and can have sex standing up, in the backseat of the car or in the woods. None of these places provides the comfort or security the teenage female needs to enjoy a sexual relationship.
As I was once a teenage male I believe I can say 90% of the problems you are having may be your boyfriend not providing the comfort and security you need to enjoy the sexual relations you are having. The other 10% is once you two find a place where you feel comfortable and secure; you need to teach him about your body. What you like and what you don’t like and how much foreplay you need to get excited. The teenage male generally speaking does not need a lot, if any foreplay. His mind gives him all the foreplay he needs.
I do agree with Melody that you should schedule a visit with your doctor both to speak with her/him about what you have written and for an examination to make sure you boyfriend did fully rupture and detach your hymen.
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I have never heard of having more than one clitoris, so I don't know if that could be causing your inability to feel pleasure. You would think it would actually help! Regardless, that is something you will want to talk to your gynocologist about. Ask her if having this could cause you to have problems with intimacy, and if so, what you can do to fix it.
Assuming this problem doesn't hinder your sexual ability, condoms and lubrication will help. First times are very rarely enjoyable, for more then one reason. Naturally it hurts the first time, with the hymen being ripped and the vagina experiencing more stretching then it probably ever has before. However, it's also uncomfortable because a lot of the times the girl isn't comfortable with the situation or her body. Are you having problems in either one of those departments? If so, sex won't be enjoyable until you get used to both. The lubrication will help to an extent, but you have to get naturally lubricated to get in the mood and really enjoy yourself.
I have never heard of the g-spot being on the clitoris. I don't know if that has something to do with your anatomy problem, but usually the clitoris is on the outside, located above your urethra and the g-spot is located inside of your vagina. Women have both. If you just mean that you get more pleasure from clitoral stimulation, then that's completely normal. A lot of women get more pleasure that way. Just incorporate it into the bedroom. Have yourself or your boyfriend stimulate it during intercourse, and then you will both get pleasure. Once again, this is something you can discuss with your gyno. That is what (s)he is for.
Good luck!
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