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One of my friends is going through a tough time because this week is the anniversary of one of her best friends death. i feel like im not prepared to help her. Do you have any suggestions?
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aw man, thats really tough, im sorry :[ but ill tell you this much right now, everyone is different. everything affects a person differently. so ill give you a few options to try to help her. youll be prepared. you sound like a really caring person and an awesome friend to care this much about helping her out.. :]
- dont avoid the topic. avoiding it will only make it worse because she'll keep her thoughts inside. its good to re-live the past and things like this, because it is a time where she should feel free and okay to cry or let her emotions out. that was her best friend who died, she was probably a very important part of her life that is no longer there. talking about it helps, avoiding it doesnt.
- after talking about it, or letting her know that she can talk about it with you.. try to do something fun :] because asking her what she wants to do will probably just lead to her saying, "i dont know." and get her all sad. you need to uplift her spirits :] you could suggest doing something in memory of her friend and be like, "lets live it up for [your friends best friends name here] she would have wanted us to." and then maybe suggest going to the movies or walking around the mall, acting goofy, trying on dresses and stuff.. just being goofy. go out to eat.. get icecream.. just have a good time :] or try to. make her laugh as much as possible too. and if you decide to see a movie or something, dont go to any sad ones or with people dying in it. do something funny. or maybe even rent a funny movie like the hangover haha.
- bake stuff, like cakes or cupcakes or cookies and with icing, put her best friends name on it.. with hearts and smiley faces :] or you could even not write her name and just have fun decorating.. taking he rmind off of stuff. but dont forget, always tell her that she can cry or talk to you at ANY time. oh and while doing this.. play some REALLY pump up music :] nothing sad or gloomy.
- just do things she enjoys. act normal. and if she wants to talk, let her. make sure you have a tissue box handy :]
but honestly, dont worry. i know how it feels to be in your position. and it might seem like youre so unprepared, but really, youre not. you KNOW how to handle it.. and when the time comes, you WILL be able to handle it. shes your friend, not some fragile life-source :] dont sweat it. youll help her through this tough time. youve been with her since the beginning of this, just promise her that youll be here for her until the end.
dont worry :] good luck ! hope i helped, and you can always get at me through my inbox ! xxo.
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