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alcoholism
my mother is an alcoholic, she goes on and off being sober like ny other alcoholic. Well now that im getting older ive started to relize the severity of the situation. She has no license and has so many criminal records its not even funny. She will never be able to find a job where she can support herself and she will never be able t live alone. I will not spend the rest of my life taking care of her. I need to get out and create a life for myself. She hasnt gotten alot worse and has currently been drunk for five days now. I wont be able to afford putting her anywhere and she wont go willingly anywhere, my family and i have tried many times. I live in Indiana, i there anyone who can help me or have any information that could be of use thank you.
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They have a website, but you need to contact al-anon.
They have been helping families for a very long time. I took some alcohol & drug abuse counseling classes and had to go to a meeting for a class paper
I wrote. The family members who used it said it was a lifesaver for them.
Here is the 800 number. They can give you information on meetings in your area.
1-888-4AL-ANON (1-888-425-2666) Monday through Friday, 8:00am to 6:00pm ET.
Here is the website, they have some meetings listed by state. If you don't find yours, call them. Not all are listed.
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First of all, let me say that I am so very sorry that you have these circumstances in your life to deal with. You have been dealt a very difficult hand. From what I understand, it is extremely hard to see someone....your mother at that, have their life totally ruined by either alcohol or drugs.
From everything I have read and learned about alcohol and drug abuse, the abuser has to be told that if they do not go to get help, they will be shut out of the lives of those who love them and are doing everything in their power (including having their own lives ruined) to keep the person alive. While I say that, I can only imagine how very difficult it would be to have to say that to your mother and then just leave her. But if you and other family members do not, she will continue to kill herself with alcohol and pull you down with her.
I am wondering if you have seen the A & E Television series called Intervention? I have watched it over the years that it has been on....and it seems to me that they have the key, which is...through an intervention meeting with people who love her, your mother would have to agree to go through rehab, or those who love her will not let her live with them and will not aid and abet her addiction. The thing is...you all have to be ready to abandon her to her own devices, should she refuse to go...and mean it.
I am wondering if your family together can afford rehab for her. Or if you could call your county mental health agency and ask for advice on your options if you cannot afford rehab. You should also ask for advice on what to do next for yourself....because it seems to me that you could use someone to talk with who has been through this (such as AA).
I have found online numerous hospitals and outpatient programs in Indiana, but without more information, I wouldn't presume to know who to tell you to call.
I'm sorry if this isn't much help. I wish you the best in this terrible situation.
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