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So Confused
I sometimes feel very unhappy with myself. I feel like i'm always thinking mean thoughts about other people just to feel better, and also I always feel like I don't fit in with my friends. Like they don't care how they look, and I always feel "better" which is horrible. I feel absolutely horrible feeling this way, I don't know how to accept me, and my friends. Help!
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usually people who think like this think that its because they are over-confident or self-indulged. when the truth is, you're really self concious. you may be "better looking" than your friends to a certain extent, but you're also unhappy. you didnt say anything about your friends, but i'm assuming they don't go around thinking bad thoughts about other people. maybe you know that on the inside, you're just not that nice of a person and it gets you down. trust me, i'm talking from experience. i think nasty or horrible thoughts about everyone that walks past me. like if a girl is making out with her boyfriend in the hallway, i picture myself shooting them for being so gross; no one wants to see that, right?! anyways, what i do is when i feel myself starting to bring myself up, in the "i'm better than you" way, i rag on myself. nothing too mean, but something small like "i'm breaking out a lot, lately" or "my hair is disgusting, i need a shower". you know, nothing that will throw you into a deep depression, because if you do go too far with this, you WILL end up hurting yourself.
now, if its the opposite and you're fixing to put down someone else, try to think of something good about them. like, say some chick from your spanish class is walking down the hall. you see her, and you remember that she's not nice to your friends, or to you. you call her a bitch in your mind, but stop yourself! instead, look for a good quality; "she probably is a nice person, maybe she just has a hard homelife" or "she has a great sense of style"
you get my drift. good luck. :)
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