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what do i do?
18/f
i'm one of those people that when i really want something, i fight for it.
so i'm still in love with my ex. he's going through a tonnn of shit right now and i guess he's just trying to find himself, if you could say. we talk and he confides in me...like he tells me things he said he hasn't told anyone, even his parents. he knows i'll always be there for him. you can say we're pretty good friends. howevvverrr, i always have to text/call him first. he never does it. and i've been trying to see him this week and he blew me off twice (the first time he was sick but then i texted him the day after and he said he was still sick) or maybe do you think he doesn't want to see me? we've broken up in the past before and hung out alot and ended up back together again for another 5 months...could this be the reason? he said he wants to be friends, andd he still tells me everythinggg. like i said, i'm a fighter for what i want, but i'm so confused :/ & i want him, alot. :/
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If a guy wants to call you, he'll call you.
If a guy wants to hang out with you, he'll hang out with you.
It doesn't seem like he's feeling the same way as you do. It seems as if he's just giving you all his problems when he needs you and yet when you need him he's not there. I'm sure you're upset you haven'tbeen able to hang out right? Have you told him how you felt? And if so has he made up other excuses instead of being sick? The truth is though if I guy likes you he'll show you and he's not showing it from what you've said. I know what you mean by fighter...but sometimes you have to let things go...people come and go its how you deal with it! If I were you,you need to take care of yourself and just stop talking to him altogether because its just going to make things worse.
I'm sorry to hear about the break-up! I know how you feel it sucks but eventually things will get better!
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He probably was sick that time, but if you're initiating all the contact, chances are he's moved on from you completely emotionally and romantically. Even if he does start to call you from time to time, and uses your friendship as an outlet, he's not interested in you anymore. He is talking to you about things, but chances are he'd be fine without you if you weren't there for him. He just doesn't want to hurt your feelings, and you feel that you are part of his life still because you're "helping him." But if he's said let's just be friends, you should really move on.
Even if you guys wind up getting back together, he knows how to call you, and ask you to come back. If he can hold down a job, tie his shoes, eat when he's hungry and drink when he's thirsty, he's perfectly capable of calling you regularly and maintaining a relationship. If he's not doing that, he doesn't really care about a relationship with you anymore.
He may start to call you, after you stop calling him, and use you as a friend emotionally and maybe even try to use you physically. But before you allow this, understand that unless he says he's committed to you in relationship, he's not committed to you.
Honestly, you should find someone else. There's someone better, trust me. Every time you just move on when a relationship is over, you find that there was a reason for everything, and you will get over it. It's hard at first, but just buck up, and move on. It will bring you closer to the love of your life. Sometimes that guy is the next person, sometimes you will have to learn a few more lessons first. If you're not the love of a lifetimes for the person you're currently with. The only time you're wasting now is your own. Stop texting him and wasting your life. Those are hours of your life you can't get back.
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i think you should come straight out with it and tell him how you feel..u prob dont want to do it this way but theirfore you will get a straight answer and know where you stand...if he does want to remain friends then thats maybe why he doesnt text or call you first as he doesnt want to lead you on or anything...if this is the case and he does want to remain things just think you have a good relationship as friends from the sounds of things and maybe if you did get back together it might not be the same and you might not be able to keep this friendship you have...like i said just come straight out with it so then you will know and take things from their hope this has helped you in some way xx
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